Sister bringing a date to bridal shower?

No.

As you already said you'd be making an exception for her because she's family. So I would say no. None of your other guests will be bringing their significant others female or male so your sister doesn't need to bring her's.

Interesting question.....If it was a guy at an all girl party, easy answer. This? Not so much

I'm inclined to say no, if you don't really know her, and not to be a fatalist, but she may not even be around in May. I'm a big fan of showers NOT being necessarily every woman invited, but a smaller group of people you know.

I could be wrong on this, but that's my logic.

Thank you, you ladies have said what I have been thinking. I feel a little guilty because my youngest sister (the one asking to bring a date) and I haven't been super close or getting along as well lately.

I would say no. No need to bring a date to your sisters shower! She should be spending time with you & family & friends.

I wouldn't be ok with that just for the sheer fact that you are not close to her

I'm in the opposite camp. Its your SISTER. Is it really a big deal if she brings her girlfriend? I would allow it for my sister - not every guest, but 100% for my sister! I can't see the big deal. I mean.... if the other sister (hostess) asked, then your sister has probably talked with her girlfriend about it and she may be excited to come and meet you. I don't know.. I don't think its worth upsetting your sister over. She may feel a little hurt.

Yeah, I wouldn't invite someone to your shower that you've never met.

I say no too. People don't bring "dates" to bridal showers - unless it's a coed shower and other guests will be extended a date/+1? If that's the case, just invite her. Otherwise, I agree with your instincts.

Showers are meant for close friends and family. I say "no," but I think you should be really nice about it. Maybe you can let you know that although you would love to have her GF come to the wedding, you were hoping for a very intimate shower. Also, set up a time for you guys to double date. That way you can get to know her better. And it won't come across as you trying to exclude her.

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I say no - bridal showers aren't events where you bring "dates."

I would also say no. If everyone could include their SO then OK, but if no one else can, and you don't know her and wouldn't have invited her anyway, then definitely stick to your no.

@Kristy I have tried to think of it from her viewpoint. I am afraid she may be hurt, so I will talk to her and make sure we are ok.

I actually do think it's a big deal if she brings her girlfriend because this isn't just a social event or family dinner. We have met. The few times we had family dinners with gf invited she and my sister were very insular, joined at the hip, barely spoke to anyone else. It's not going to be possible to get to know her AT my bridal shower. I do really hope that happens in the future!

I hear you... I Just think its a tough one. Are they serious? If so, I would invite her.

How big is your shower?

I mean... it can't HURT... thats just the way I see it, though. Clearly, I'm the only one! lol

If it were me, I'd be concerned my sister would take it as a statement that I didn't like or approve of her girlfriend. If it came up, its because your sister wants to bring her.

I don't think it would be fair to let her bring a date while everyone else can't.

It would be different if you were really close with the girlfriend, but then you would have already said yes to her being on the list.

How many people are coming to your shower? If it's a small, intimate guest list, I'd say no. If it's large, then I don't see a problem with it.

I do think they are serious, even though the relationship is new. But this is a small shower in someone's home. I think there will be 20 people there, max. No one else is bringing a date. If it were a bigger event, more friends than family, or of course if I knew her better it would be different.

Obviously do what you want but, if it were me, I'd invite her. If you would invite your brothers' girlfriends to your shower then it would make sense to invite your sister's girlfriend. I look at it as a matter of a complete couple being at a shower together so much as inviting the significant others' of your family who are female. That said, maybe you're having a closer-knit shower with only your very nearest and dearest and she wouldn't be invited if she were your brother's girlfriend either.

I would say no. Unless you're having a couples shower, it should only be to the actual person your interested in, i.e. family member, friend. Not their partners. People who are planning the shower should not have to pay for "dates".

I also have a brother with a girlfriend. She wasn't invited either lol. That relationship is also new. My hostess sister's boyfriend and the father of my niece won't be there either. And the shower is at his house! I do appreciate hearing all of the opinions though, and it's interesting to see that a few people would invite sibling's SOs even if you didn't know them well. Maybe if this was a bigger event I would have a different opinion too.

I really tried to see it from her perspective. I didn't mention this, but I am bi. My last serious relationship before FH was with a woman. We didn't have any family weddings while we were together, but we didn't bring each other to any friends' pre-wedding festivities. We attended weddings as a couple.