Sister as a bridesmaid drama

That is just pure drama. I’d give her the chair and be done with it. Then if she continues to be snarky, that’s on her.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this.

View Quoted Comment Agreed. I told her I would give it back right away and she said she seen the kids on it and doesn’t want it back. So I told her I would pay for it. She’s still making it a big deal that I took it without asking. I just don’t know how to make things fine before Nashville.

As someone who has been dealing with LOTS of family drama, just a piece of advice- don’t text about issues, it just makes things worse. Nothing gets resolved through text, you loose inflection and often words get misconstrued because there’s no context. Clearly from your perspective it was a complete misunderstanding/mistake, which makes me think the chair is an excuse to pick a fight and cause drama. The only way to really resolve the issue is to actually talk it out, preferably in person.

View Quoted Comment I totally agree. I’m going to try to talk to her in person tomorrow. It’s so hard to just let things go though when they keep happening. She’s nothing but drama but she’s family.

Just give her back the chair and ignore her drama.. don't even acknowledge it. Don't engage. If she doesn't want it back, take it anyway and leave it on her doorstep. You can't give drama queens and toxic people anything to make future drama over

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Completely agree with this.

View Quoted Comment Sounds like there is something else going on with her. I’m sorry you’re dealing with it. I hope she stops acting childish.

I agree with the above. Just give her the chair and be done with it. Good chance the chair is simply the catalyst or something to focus her anger on. Get rid of the focus, and she'll either pick a new battle, come clean about what's the core issue, or simply ignore it/sulk. If you try to force resolution you're just going to cause more drama and exhaust yourself.

My family also has a lot of drama. And until she wants to work through anything constructively, "talking" will only add fuel to the fire... Especially via text.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for your reply. I agree. I’m going to bring her chair over today, and talk to her in person. The thing is, with her being in my wedding and the bachelorette party i’m trying to keep it drama free. So far it hasn’t been bad, a few of the other girls have noticed how she acts and I wanted to talk to her about it before we go to Nashville. I don’t want everyone avoiding her, including me. 😩 I guess you can try changing people but they are who they are.

Just give her the chair and be done with it. You don't need the stress

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As they say in counseling, never try to change people or their behaviors. All you can do is control your reaction to them.

View Quoted Comment Lead by example and I think it will work out well. You can ask those who notice her behaviour to show compassion for your sake. As someone else wrote, controlling your reactions to her behaviour is the only thing you can do. It's hard and takes practice but you can do it.

Thanks for your comments, I took the chair back. And told her if it wasn’t the way she had it before it ended up at my house, that I would pay what she was selling it for. My entire family is involved in this drama now. She’s posting on Facebook talking about inherit dysfunction. I texted her yesterday, everyone knew the Nashville trip money was due yesterday and she hasn’t paid me. I am seriously so mad about this.

Well I’m glad you returned the chair and I know you probably won’t want to hear this but you may have to go to Nashville without her and be better off. If she knows the $$ was due and failed to pay go enjoy yourselves with the drama free folks ! You cannot change your sister stop trying stop feeding into it. It only enables the bad behavior you are planning a new life with your new spouse enjoy your bachelorette party and your wedding

View Quoted Comment Wait she doesn't want it back because the kids were on it...? Does she think they have cooties? I'm sure if they were ever at her house they were probably on it. Sounds to me like someones starting bs just to start somthing

View Quoted Comment It turned out to be a lot more than the chair. I uninvited her to my bachelorette party. It was the most drama free weekend ever! Thankfully.

As far as my wedding, she’s in it. I had to talk to her about the way she treats people and she promised to not start anything there or she’s out!

View Quoted Comment Agree with this poster!