Single mother including daughter.. help!

My FH and I both have children and are including them. His two teenage boys are groomsmen and my 10 year old son is the ringbearer. We are going to exchange our vows to each other and then do vows similar to these vows to our children: "________, I promise to be a good and faithful husband/wife to you, and also a patient, loving father/mother to (children's names), caring for them and providing for them as my own. I promise to be their strength and their emotional support, loving them with all my heart forever."

Then give them each a blended family medallion, attached is just one example. http://www.exclusivelyweddings.com/Blended_Family_2.html~curPage~1~idCategory~80

Talk to the oficiant because when my dad married my stepmom the preacher included my 2 sisters and myself as well as my stepmoms daughter. depending on the officiant they usually will add that as part of the ceremony and a locket as a gift i think would be beautiful. maybe a bit time consuming during the ceremony so he maybe could give it to her at the rehursal dinner. and then she could were it during the ceremony.(thingsremembered.com has beautiful gifts for little girls and they will engrave a little message on there too.)

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I'm sorry I sent you the wrong vows. My FH and I decided we didn't like the first one. We felt the first vow I sent you came across as if we were trying to be the children's mother or father and they already have one. So, we chose this option instead. The officiant is more than happy to include it in the ceremony along with the blended family medallion.

The following was a vow from a groom to his bride's children.

He vowed as he presented each of the children with a Family Unity Ring.

"Today, as I married your mother, you became my family.

I am delighted because I love you.

I promise you that I'll always shower you with love, take care of you and do my very best for you."

Hope this gives you some ideas.

I am having my daughter walk me and give me away to her father.

My 12 year old son is giving me away and my 17 year old daughter is my MOH. during the reception my FH and My daugther will dance a first dance then his son and i will dance.

This will take several posts, but I have lots of ideas!

Family Sand Ceremony

Bride and Groom come to behind the altar and each take their own container of sand in hand

Bride and Groom intermingle half of thier sand

The couple's child/children joins them behind the altar

(Child/Children) picks up her container of sand and pours

Bride and Groom pour the rest of their sand into the container

"(Child/Children), do you see where you all are. You are in the center of your mom and dad's hearts, now and forever."

I also have a family unity candle ceremony, a family food and drink of the soul ceremony, and a medallion ceremony. If you need wording for any of these, just email me!

We blended the sand with my 5 year old son. He got to pick the color of his sand which he liked. Also, after we exchanged rings and vows, Scott my (now) husband, picked my son up and together we vowed to always love, support, and cherish him. We gave him a little ring (and a chain) because he wanted one like Mommy and Scott.

My Brother in law just got married in January and his wife has a 9 or 10 year old Daughter , he(BIL) said vows that he wrote for his future step daughter and gave her , her own little band of gold. He promised to love her and be there when she needs him and all that mushy gushy stuff. She even wore a conformation gown and carried a bouquet a little like the brides.

Feel free to change. Officiant will say

“You have just exchanged rings and promised yourselves to one another. I ask now that _____(child or children) step forward and hold hands with_______(bride) &_____ groom. The circle that you have formed is strong and this very special day gives___ and ____to tell you how much they love you, and how important your are to both of them.

___ would like to say a few words to you.

Personal wording and presentation of gift.

Or officiant continues.

This ___ (gift). (The gift is given), is to remind you of that no matter what happens they will always be there for you. If you are missing them, or are sad, or you are just having a bad day, you can look at this___ and think of both of the,and it will remind you that your family circle is strong, and that they will always love you, and always take care of you, and always be there for you. ___ and___ feel so blessed that you are a part of their lives.

___ (child) You may be seated.

We had both of our kids light the unity candle with us as sign of our families combining.

I also noticed you were in the southern ca area as am I and I am a planner in the area. I currently having a contest for the most amazing couple if you have great love story or no someone who does I would love to hear about it. The deadline is 5-30-09. The contest winner will receive free planning services, Photography package a Dress, Veil and Invitations. It is on my WW page. It is my PAY IT FOWARD CONTEST.

There is no catch or marketing involved I would just like to help out a couple getting married.

Thanks and good luck!

I have another suggestion: We have a Family Tree Coin that can be used in your sister's ceremony to include her daughter. Engrave a coin for each member of the family with names and your wedding date to create a family heirloom that can be cherished and shared for generations. Please visit our site for more information: www.HoldenMarks.com. And congratulations to your family!

Here's a photo of the coin.

Holden Marks Family Tree Wedding Coin:

www.holdenmarks.com/blended-family-weddings.html