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Single friends plus one

Lexi, on March 4, 2019 at 6:13 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

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Would it be "not proper" to only give plus one's to single friends & not the remaining of the guest list (cousins/family friends etc.)? We have about 6 single friends (1 is female, 5 are male) and we're debating to give them plus one's so they're not alone.

We are already inviting our guest's partner if they're married/engaged/dating. The wedding party is getting a plus one & if you're traveling from a far you get one. But our single friends we're uncertain, especially since they're is only one single female. If we give a plus one to everyone on our guest list it'll be about an additional 30 people. If we give it to our friends it'll be 6. The family friends/cousins/grandparents are either divorced, widowed are just aren't seeing anyone & the youngest single cousin is 42, youngest family friend is 54.

Please no rude comments, just looking for advice on this topic. Thanks!

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Latest activity by Jaime, on March 5, 2019 at 8:51 AM

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Alexandra · on March 4, 2019 at 6:26 PM
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As long as you’re talking about true plus ones (aka for your single guests, not those with SOs) then I don’t think this is a problem. Plus ones are completely optional.
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Chandra · on March 4, 2019 at 6:26 PM
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I think that's a perfectly acceptable way to approach the plus ones! Family has each other to hang with whereas single guests are kind of alone.
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Lexi · on March 4, 2019 at 6:29 PM
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Yup! We are already inviting SO's of guests. I just don't know if it's rude to give those single friend's a plus one, but not my single cousin/family friends or grandparents.
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Caytlyn · on March 4, 2019 at 6:30 PM
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That's totally fine. Your family members will have other people to socialize with, your single friends might not.
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Alexandra · on March 4, 2019 at 6:34 PM
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Not rude! This is absolutely acceptable
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Cristy · on March 4, 2019 at 6:51 PM
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I think what you are proposing is fine. Regarding the family/cousins/grandparents who are single, they will most likely know other guests, so giving them a plus one isn't as critical. But for truly "single" friends, it's a nice gesture to allow them to bring a date or whatever, so they have someone to hang out with.
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Julia · on March 4, 2019 at 8:20 PM
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I agree with what most others are saying. My single cousins (even those in their 20s) are not getting a plus one. I know they will have plenty of people to talk to. If they have a steady significant other, I've invited them.
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Judith · on March 4, 2019 at 9:06 PM
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You are talking true singles. This is fine.
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Mcskipper · on March 4, 2019 at 10:24 PM
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The rule we followed is plus ones to any single person that didn’t have a *someone* there. What you’re talking about sounds totally acceptable.
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Jaime · on March 5, 2019 at 8:51 AM
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I don't have any single cousins attending, but I am giving a plus one to all of my friends who do not have an SO currently. It's not a huge number, but I feel it's important to help people feel comfortable by giving them someone to bring to the wedding. Sure, they may know other people, but it is different than having a "partner" there which could really be anyone in their life who could be a date or just a friend.
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