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Danielle K
VIP June 2019

Single Digits!!

Danielle K, on May 29, 2019 at 4:56 PM Posted in Planning 0 6
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So I just realized my wedding is 9 days away but I am not panicking any more... For a few months now, every time it hit me that my wedding was getting closer I would seriously panic. I have been sick because of it (like really sick) and have even had full on panic attacks. (not about who I am marrying I truly love him and am ready to spend my life with him) but about everything going as planned.

Now that everything is paid for (phew!) and planned (timeline done, seating chart done, DIY done, etc.) and my day of coordinator is taking all of the décor I have so she can set it all up (seriously DOC is my favorite vendor! If at all possible hire one!!!) I feel like I can breath.

I also had my shower and bach party last weekend and although a lot of things went wrong, I am so glad it is over because I feel like it gave me a taste of what the wedding will be like and also made me grateful for how much better it will be. <we seriously forgot to get a photo of my mom and I or of my girls and I at the club but I will have a photographer and videographer that will make sure we don't miss any photos. We also ran super late packing décor, my sister got hurt carrying in a box of décor, and it was super stressful, so I gave all of my wedding décor to my DOC already so that I only need to bring my cloths and makeup to the air bnb the night before.

Sorry for the long post but if you're still with me, when did you start or stop panicking about your wedding? What was your biggest fear while planning?


  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
    Danielle ·
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    I haven't panicked yet...knock on wood. 30 days out! I'm hoping that doesn't change for me. Sorry you are having these attacks. Just know that everything will be perfect, even if it isn't "perfect." Congrats on single digits!

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  • Danielle K
    VIP June 2019
    Danielle K ·
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    Thank you and I am glad you aren't panicking!

    Two good things have come out of my issues though.

    1. I know what not panicked feels like!! (IE my coordinator actually made my escort cards and she did them differently than I wanted. I don't care! lol that is a good feeling!

    2. I am now making decisions for my mental and physical health. I am a workaholic so when I learned getting on anti anxiety meds (something I have wanted to do long before wedding planning) would disqualify me from a management position (unable to operate heavy equipment) I decided I didn't need them that badly, but I just spoke to my boss yesterday and told him I am no longer interested in the potential promotion. I will try for something else later because I need to take care of me right now.

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  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
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    I'm 15 days out and while I'm not panicking, I'm certainly getting sick of this. I just want the wedding to be here. All the people from my venue are really getting on my nerves. I'm actually regretting being so laid back about everything lol. I think I sent the wrong message. 🤷‍♀️
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  • A
    Expert June 2019
    Afterallthistime...Always ·
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    Date twin! I am in the same boat! Day of Coordinators are the best! I am so happy we hired mine, she is helping so so so much! We just have a few small tasks left for the week of (get ring cleaned, drop off decor to DOC, get nails done, etc.), but it is so much less stressful.

    It's an odd feeling not having a bunch of things to do. Enjoy this time leading up to your day!

    As far as my fear, I don't know if you'd call it that, but I keep having recurring dreams that the DJ either doesn't show up, or plays the completely wrong songs for the ceremony haha. I'm not that worried about it day to day, not sure why I keep dreaming it. I had a dream last night that he played cotton-eyed joe and I refused to walk down the aisle until someone made him change it hahaha.

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
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    I am 16 days out and I think I stopped panicking a couple weeks ago. I think when I got to the point where I felt that I pretty much bought everything and figured out everything, I felt much more at ease. But at the same time I sort of adopted this whole attitude of letting go. I recognize that things may not go 100% as planned or hoped for but to still try to have fun and have faith that it will all come together anyway !
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  • Expert August 2020
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    No wedding is perfect or without hiccups. At the end of the day, what really matters is who you're with and the memories you made.

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