Simple or lace?

I say stick with what you want, although its a nice thought - and its nice that your FH is interested in what you will be wearing, you also want to be comfortable as you will be the one wearing the dress, not him.

He will love you no matter what you wear, he's not going to call off the wedding because you don't wear a lace dress.

At the end of the day, you need to be confident and happy in your dress! Have you tried on any dresses yet? Despite his vs your idea of a dress, you may change your mind about what you want once you start trying on dresses (My SIL was dead set on having a strapless A line gown, and ended up loving a super fitted off the shoulder!)

Is having 2 dresses an option? Maybe the classic satin for the ceremony and then a more fun lace one for reception?

What about doing a lace veil with a satin dress? That could incorporate his like into the look.

But seriously, as long as you are happy and confident, he will be happy! He is going to love you in whatever you decide to wear.

Wear whatever you love. He will think you are beautiful no matter what. And if you aren’t wearing a dress you love, it will show through the day and in pictures.

Stick to your vision about how you see yourself as a bride. But, really you never know until you try on a few dresses. You may be surprised what you like. Another similar fabric to satin is silk mikado which may be lighter in weight and less inclined to wrinkle, but again there are so many options. Go to your appointment with your lady friends. I do think your fiance will feel you are at your most beautiful on your wedding day no matter what. However, you could add lace to your accessories like the veil or wrap a lace swatch around your wrist or bridal bouqet to show you were "listening". ; )

Try on some of both styles and pick whatever you personally feel really good about. He'll think you're gorgeous no matter what. I would stop asking him his opinion.

I think you should try both styles, but don’t go out of your way to find a dress that checks all his boxes. I had the same thought process with my fiancé and wanting to wear something he’d like, but at the end of the day, he’ll love what I pick! Your fiancé will feel the same and love it regardless because it’s you, him, and you wedding day!

Try them both. You might be surprised and like the lace. What about a hint of lace on a satin dress? Lace Bodice, satin bottom?

I would get the dress you want. He’s going to think you’re beautiful either way. My FH made a comment that he didn’t like the style of dress that I ended up choosing for the ceremony but idk I love it. You can Always add a veil with lots of lace.

It’s YOUR dress, so you should get what you want. If he truly loves you, he will think you are stunning in anything! Maybe get some lingerie that has a lot of lace for the wedding night, so you are acknowledging his fantasies.

I think a lot of respondents are going to say ‘it’s your dress’... but I think I want the person I love to look at me and think ‘d*mn’ lol! I took my SOs opinion into account. It’s the opposite of your situation. I found out that there are totally dresses that incorporate both. I ended up with a sleek dress that had an illusion back and lace filled slit. It’s enough lace for me and not obnoxiously in my SOs face.

I do think you need to try something on to make your choice, and maybe there's a dress which has some lace and some satin which will really fit both ideas!

The other thing you could do add a lace veil, or a topper that you wear for just down the aisle.

Something like this?

Maybe find something in the middle. Some simple satin with a touch of lace…I’m sure it exists 😊

Stick to who you are and what you want. He should love you for that. Wear some lace underneath if you want. That’s for him. Haha 😏


He will be wowed by whatever you wear. That moment he sees YOU. Especially if he is expecting lace and you bust out in a gorgeous, Hollywood bombshell classy AF, silk satin dress you love and feel good in. Done, end credits girl. He’ll be weak in the knees.

Best of both worlds? My dress is head-to-toe lace. Illusion lace bodice, fit-and-flare lace silhouette with a long lace train. But it has no stretch and I gained about 5 lbs since our Covid elopement last year and couldn't sit down in my dress when I last tried, so I got a silk slip dress to wear for our reception so I can be a bit more comfortable while eating and dancing. If two dresses are not in the cards for you, maybe consider a satin dress with a hint of lace somewhere in the styling, or some lace accessories that can be removed later (like lace gloves or a lace topper).

I do think that really simple dresses (satin, silk, crepe) need some accessorizing to look truly bridal. They look amazing with a chapel length or longer veil (simple unembellished tulle would be the way to go for me) and a pair of statement earrings. So chic and modern but still very classy and bridal! I also really prefer a nice silk satin with modest sheen over a high sheen polyester satin; I just feel it looks a lot more luxe.

Its YOUR dress and I promise your husband will think you look amazing on your wedding day even if you pick out something a little different than he would have. I would go with what you prefer and will feel most confident in and be sure to accessorize in a way that completes the bridal look.

Be open when you try on dresses but buy the dress you love and as an ode to him you can try it with a beautiful Spanish or Italian style lace veil that you remove after ceremony. Or even add just a small lace belt. Or trim around the waist or hem.. You dont need to go crazy w lace just add it as an accent if it feels right to the dress you choose. If it doesn't ultimately as others have said if you feel confident you will glow and he will think you are stunning even if you are in a grain sack!! Also he only thinks he knows what he likes because he hasn't seen you in anything. Trust your taste and that's part of what he likes about you and your pick will be amazing.