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tania
Dedicated February 2022

sil late getting dress

tania, on December 27, 2021 at 2:48 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 15
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Soooo hi everyone i have a little problem with my SIL. My wedding is on February 19 2022. I have 3 bridesmaids and 2 maid of honors. And 1 of my bridesmaids is my SIL. So we have looked for a dress for her and my nieces since September. We found one that we all liked and got the barcode number name of color and all the jazz from David bridal. At that time she just started a new job and couldn't get their dresses and i was totally understanding and at that time she had plenty of time to order later. Well ladies it's now the end of December and she still has yet to get there dresses!!! There is no exact style i want them to wear i had all my ladies pick dresses that they love and feel very comfortable in. The only thing was they had certain colors to wear. Now i told her jokily that if she doesn't get her dress by the end of this month she will be able to attend the wedding BUT as a guest. I know it that is very bridezilla of me but she has known this wedding for over a year and like i said i helped her pick one out. All my other girls got their dresses already she is the last one. So what can I do at this point?? (Sorry for the essay but i need help)

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Latest activity by Cece, on December 27, 2021 at 11:02 AM
  • Sarah
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    Can you offer to pay for her dress or for the dresses for your nieces? It sounds like it was a money issue in September and might still be.
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  • tania
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    I thought about it but i had to get my own 3 kids their outfits plus my fiance too.
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  • Sierra
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    I had a similar situation with my SIL. I just explained that I still want her there, but we shouldn’t add on unneeded stress. I invited my SIL to still get ready with us and stay with us the night before!
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  • tania
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    Yes i still want her to be part of all the fun experience. And yea i shouldn't give her to much stress but i feel like she not considering my feelings as well.
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  • Sierra
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    I’m sorry, maybe you can try explaining again that it’s adding stress to you and it’d be easier for you if she was no longer in the wedding party. But still be apart of all the fun and events! Best wishes!
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  • Cece
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    It doesn’t sound as though she is trying to be inconsiderate of your feelings. It sounds like it is a financial issue beyond her control. If you are close with SIL and really want her (and her children) in your wedding party, I would tell her not to worry about purchasing dresses from David’s Bridal and to just get whatever dress she would like that is close to the colors of the other girl’s dresses, and to find cute, affordable dresses for the girls on Amazon - they have a huge selection of bridesmaid and flower girl dresses and many of them can be delivered to her doorstep within 48 hours.
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  • tania
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    Yes i did forget to mention that. I went to a local indoor swap meet for dresses to look for my mother's dress and they had so many beautiful outfits that match our color scheme. I did mention it to her and she said she will go over the weekend...that was the beginning of December. The dresses on Amazon are beautiful but the colors don't match the others (i ordered some for my kids and had to return them)
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  • tania
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    Ugh i hope it doesn't come to that. Thank you for your advice
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  • Cece
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    I don’t think it would be a big deal if they don’t match exactly. Just place her at the end of the bridesmaids. Peoples attention is going to be on you and your groom, no one is going to be focusing on bridesmaids dresses. I would just tell her she has until a specific date to either order the original dress, get one of the dresses you suggested at the swap meet, or order a dress from another location she would like; and if she does not have a dress by that date then you would love to have her and the children attend as guests.
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  • tania
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    You know what your right!!! It is about me, my fiance and our kids!! My color scheme is ombre blue so as long as they have a blue dress it all good right? If she really wants to match with her brother than she should stress about that haha that not mean is it?
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  • Cece
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    Exactly! This day is about you and your fiancé! No one is going to be paying attention to anything else. And no, that’s not mean at all! You’re giving her ample options in order to accommodate her budget. Hopefully one works for her! And if not, then you shouldn’t feel bad- she will still be present for the joyous occasion Smiley smile
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  • Cece
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    And how lucky you are doing an ombré color scheme! A differentiation in color will just look purposeful
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  • tania
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    😁😁 your absolutely right thank you so much for helping me!!! Your a rock star for sure!!!
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  • tania
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    Eeeekkkk right let's embrace it even more!! Haha
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  • Cece
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    So glad I was helpful! You got this!!
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