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sil as bridesmaid!

Kassidy, on October 11, 2019 at 11:30 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 10
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I was wondering what some opinions are on if I should ask my FSIL to be a bridesmaid (or matron technically). I know this is typically a common thing people do, however my FSIL and I have a 12 year age gap, she is married with children and has been for years. I love her dearly, I’m just not sure it would be very enjoyable for either of us since there is such a difference in where we are at in life.


  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
    2d Bride ·
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    Why doesn't he have her as a groomswoman? It makes sense for each of you to have the people you are closest to as your attendants, and she's closer to him than to you.

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    Master July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    Age shouldn't matter. It's about who you are the closest to. My sil was a bridesmaid in my wedding because she and I are close and she's like a second sister to me. My friend's maid of honor has a daughter about the same age as her and she still had her in the wedding because that's who she was close to.
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  • Kaitlin
    Devoted June 2020
    Kaitlin ·
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    My FSIL is almost eight years older than me and is also married and has a kid and I'm just having her be a bridesmaid. I considered having her be a matron of honor but we aren't that close where I'd be comfortable asking her so I figured she'd be satisfied being just a bridesmaid walking with her husband/my FBIL.
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  • K
    Expert September 2020
    Ka-Rina ·
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    Why are you considering making her one?
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  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle Online ·
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    What exactly are your concerns? Like she wouldn't really enjoy the bachelorette stuff as you? Or she would be too preoccupied with her family?n
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  • Olivia
    Beginner June 2020
    Olivia ·
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    If you’re just wanting to make her a bridesmaid so she feels included in the festivities, have you considered including her children in the bridal party as flower girls and ring bearers? Even if you’ve already selected these roles, adding a couple more kiddos wouldn’t hurt and it makes for super cute photos!
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Is she one of your nearest and dearest friends? If so, ask her. If not, don't.

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  • Katie
    Devoted August 2019
    Katie ·
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    Highly recommend you refrain from asking anyone to be in your bridal party until you are away least 9 months from your date. You have so much time to figure this out of the date on your profile is correct.
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  • Gabriella
    Dedicated November 2021
    Gabriella ·
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    My one FSIL is 10 years older then me and the other FSIL is 9 years older than me, I’ll be having both of them. As well as my cousins that are closer to my age.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    I included my husband's 4 sisters as bridesmaids. I'm 25, they range from 29-37. Two of them were already married, one had two kids (both were our flower children). I couldn't imagine not including them as bridesmaids, it was so fun to have them all.

    left to right - my husband's stepbrother's wife (29), my husband's stepsister & her daughter (37 & 3), me, my husband's sister (35) and my husband's other sister (36).sil as bridesmaid! 1

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