SIL as a bridesmaid?

You're not obligated to make her a bridesmaid. If you two are not close, no need to put her in a situation where she may feel obligated to say yes. You'll end up unhappy. I'd leave things as they are.

I don't think it is necessary. It all depends on your relationship with her. Why would she block you on social media? Was there an argument or disagreement?

No arguments or disagreements. On the times when I do see her she's very sweet. That's why I'm at a loss. I was going to ask her to be a BM but after finding this out I feel I need to reevaluate where I stand with her.

Did she maybe deactivate her accounts?

Social media isn't real life so I wouldn't give too much thought into it. Making assumptions are always dangerous. To answer your question, no you don't have to ask her. It is not a requirement.

She did deactivate and told me but I noticed FH's daughter was playing on her Snapchat. So I decided to readd and that's when I figured I was blocked.

You pick the people nearest and dearest to YOU, not to your family. The ones standing next to you should be the ones who have been there and will be there in the best and worst of times! Ive never understood why people think they need to have future inlaws stand next to them. In this day and age a sister can stand in next to her brother as a groomswoman, or a brother can stand next to his sister as a bridesman.

She does not need to be at all. I thought it would be a nice gesture to have my 14 year old FSIL but now I regret it since she is in such an awkward phase right now and she couldn't care less.

Nope. Unless FS is adamant about it and has just cause, she can be a guest. Even if your FS does push for it, she could always stand on their side.

Well there's go my explanation!! I would not ask her to be a BM then. Anyone that had me blocked on social media wouldn't be in my BP, or at my wedding. I'm not saying don't invite her, I'm just petty.

I am debating on this myself. My SIL (brother's wife) has made it very clear that I am not a sister figure to her but my other brother's new wife is. It's hurtful! I say your SIL doesn't have to be a BM.

Your wedding party should be whoever is closest to YOU. If it makes you feel better, my own sister isn't in mine... only bc we're not close and I wasn't in hers either. FH has his brother as his best man bc he felt like he "had to" and I feel like to keep his parents happy.

You don't have to have anyone who you don't want in it. My brother is getting married after me and I know she isn't asking me to be in her bridal party, as I am not asking her. We are not close so neither of us care at all

I was feeling so bad about this- especially after FH's aunt made some comments about this being the customary way to do things. Anyway, I'm kinda over it. FSIL is cool but she's older that me and other BMs and we don't have too much in common. I don't even think she'd enjoy it. Being a bridesmaid is a job (time +money) so people gotta really love you as a friend.

It is not necessary at all. I did that mistake by making my SIL a bridesmaid and I regretted it.

I wouldn't ask her. You should have your closest friends and family if you so choose.

You're not obligated to make her a bridesmaid. Especially if you two aren't close. I made my FSil a bridesmaid and we weren't super close when I did that but within the time since I asked her we have grown a lot closer and gotten to know each other better. So in my case it has worked out so far but I wouldn't recommend it if you feel obligated or that you have to because it's FH's sister.

I'm not close with my FSIL at all. I have no problems with her, but she won't be a bridesmaid. And shes okay with that.

Absolutely not. You have whoever you're close to.

I wouldn't. I chose one of my FSIL because she is the one that reunited us.