Hey! Do you think its rude to not include a husband or wife as a groomsman/bridesmaid if their spouse is in the wedding? For example my fiance wants one of his friends as a groomsman, but although my fiance is good friends with his wife, I personally am not very close to either. His wife and I get along, but we're not exactly friends. More like acquaintances I guess u could say. Do u think I should include her?
Personally I wouldn't. If you're friends with her and she is someone close to you than yes. I had did that and asked my FH best friends wife to be my bridesmaid and she ended up dropping out. It's an awkward situation. I wouldn't mind if my FH was a groomsmen in a wedding and I wasnt a bridesmaid. No hurt feelings.
No. A person is asked to be in the wedding party based on their individual relationship to whoever's side they're standing on. Bridal party attendants do not come as a package deal because they're a couple
I would not include her in bridal party, but you could ask her to attend some of your pre wedding events if you like. Otherwise, during the reception, just make sure to have them sit together (especially if you have a head table). That’s the least you could do so she feels comfortable during.
You do not have to pick a person's significant other to be in your party. It's pretty commonplace to have only one person in the couple be in the wedding, so you wouldn't be disappointing anyone.
My FH has another odd scenario--he asked his sister's fiancé to be a groomsman, and depending on the availability of an out of town buddy who has not responded to him, may choose his sister as a groomswoman. She goes to law school and looks rad in a suit anyway lol. If your FH feels strongly about having her in the party, he can make her a groomswoman if he wants to do so, but you shouldn't just add her as a bridesmaid under obligation.
Nope! You are not obligated to include significant others in the bridal party. However, I think it is rude to split up couples for the reception by having a head table. That’s why we are doing a sweetheart table and letting everyone sit with their spouses/SOs
Not necessary at all. We had five people on each side. We only included two couples - Eric (my brother/bride's man) and Kelly (brother's wife/bridesmaid) and Ryan (husband's friend/groomsman) and Natalie (my friend/bridesmaid). We didn't include the spouses/significant others of the other bridesmaids, groomsmen, or groomswoman as we aren't as close to them. Only include those you have a close relationship with that you can't imagine not having be part of your wedding day.
We have this situation as well, my best friend is my matron of honor and we are friends with her husband and my FH was in their wedding, but my FH has other closer friends he prefers to be part of the day. We are leaving him out of the bridal party for that reason. You shouldn’t have to include anyone you don’t want to!
Agreeing with everyone else. Your wedding party members should be your nearest and dearest. If aren't close with your FH's groomsman's wife, she shouldn't be asked to be in the wedding. I have been in (and not been in) plenty of weddings in which my SO (or myself) were not a part of the wedding party. We were fine. The only thing I would make sure to do is to have a sweetheart table at the reception so your wedding party can sit with their SOs.
It is uncommon to go to a wedding where couples are in the wedding party. It only happens when your very best friend or relative is married to his very best friend or relative. Ordinarily, just to be accommodating to the FI or spouse of your FI's chosen person, NO. First, it means if you have a few people, that spouse knows, you only felt you had to have her, you don't really like her like the others. And she and everyone else knows it. Which gets to feel humiliating. And can lead to friction with you. Second, they may as a team push for things you just don't want. Which puts people at odds. And, third, you lose a slot for someone you really want. It happens, and is often a mistake. Especially if the couple splits. Don't do it. Do be thoughtful of your wedding party, and if they want to get ready with SO ( which is the traditional thing, this wedding party getting ready together stuff is recent reality TV stuff), say fine. Meet up an hour before the wedding, all dressed and groomed. And whether they were with you or not earlier, set a seating plan which seats wedding party beside their SO if you have a head table, for the reception. Lots of times when people suggest both be in the wedding party, it is because they know it is a lousy experience to be in the WP of people who separate WP from their dates or spouses at the reception. Most people now respect their WP relationships, and let them stay with their SO. Do, do that. And say no to any expectations that you will choose SO of your FI's guys.