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Just Said Yes November 2020

Sign the papers now, ceremony later?

Catelyn, on October 21, 2020 at 11:51 AM Posted in Planning 0 6

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Partly due to Covid, and partly due to my fiance not wanting a huge spectacle.. I wanted to ask, is it weird/wrong/or bad if we sign the marriage certificate now plan a little ceremony and reception later? Im thinking just a few months from now (as I dont want anything big or crazy either). But this would give his parents time to plan a trip to visit us and we could do the ceremony then. My gut feeling says "why wait?!" but I dont want people to judge or think poorly of us...

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Latest activity by Michele, on October 21, 2020 at 6:35 PM

Just Said Yes November 2020
Catelyn · on October 21, 2020 at 11:52 AM
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We live in Colorado where we can self solemnize the marriage and don't even need an officiant to make it legal, just to clarify that part!
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Hannah · on October 21, 2020 at 12:28 PM
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I think it's fine as long as people know that you have already legally wed. When you keep things like that a secret, you are lying to your guests, which doesn't go over well. Especially due to COVID, most people are understanding of getting legally married and holding off on the celebration until later.
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on October 21, 2020 at 12:46 PM
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It’s fine as long as you’re not hiding it.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on October 21, 2020 at 1:04 PM
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That’s fine ! I’ve seen people do that even pre pandemic
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Master April 2021
Mrs. Spring · on October 21, 2020 at 2:06 PM
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Yes! I love this. My hometown, Washington, DC offers this option with self solem. as well.
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Michele · on October 21, 2020 at 6:35 PM
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When you sign legal paperwork, that IS your ceremony and wedding. Anything following is a renewal of vows. If guests are invited to anything, ceremony and reception must be held same day with all guests invited to both.
Guests will understand if you elope privately with just announcements and no party. Why not make everything legal while your guests are in attendance? They not judge you if you are honest about 1) eloping with announcements and no party or 2) a renewal of vows as long as you do not call it THE wedding to discount/negate the private legal wedding as though that first one is not real or valid in any way.
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