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Sick future mother-in-law 💔

Ali, on December 25, 2019 at 9:43 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 4

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My future mother-in-law is sick to the point where our 631 day wedding wait is a bit of gamble. We planned such a long engagement because at the time it was the best thing for us and her health was in a stable condition. Now her health is declining and we’re concerned she won’t be there for our wedding. She and I are close but naturally no where near as close as her and my fiancé. Her presence at our wedding is so important to us.
As you’re reading this, you’re probably thinking no brainer, move the wedding up. We’d already set the date, booked a venue, and a photographer. Honestly the deposits don’t mean anything if we have to lose them in order to move the day up so she can be there but the point is we’ve already started planning and she too proud to give us the okay to move it on her account.
How do we go about getting her blessing to move the day up?

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Latest activity by Ali, on January 3, 2020 at 8:22 PM

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Kristen · on December 25, 2019 at 9:47 PM
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I say keep your ceremony but maybe do a symbolic ceremony just close family? Traveling officiants usually have venues and are not that expensive. Or do a quick courthouse wedding and the later date can be a vow renewal?
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Sharon · on December 26, 2019 at 5:43 AM
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I agree with PP. Keep everything you're planning and do a small ceremony now with your immediate family so can she can be here for it and enjoy it. We did that a few months ago and are still planning a big wedding for Oct. It's more common than I thought.
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Jo · on December 30, 2019 at 11:58 AM
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Same suggestion from me, you could do a symbolic ceremony now with your MIL, or you could get legally married now with her present and do a symbolic ceremony/renewal on your booked wedding date. I'd also be sure first to talk to her and see what she wants you to do.
I'm so sorry you're going through this and am wishing her comfort.
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Ali · on January 3, 2020 at 8:22 PM
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Thank you all for the responses! My fiancé wants her approval before making an decisions in regards to this. Right now my FMIL says it’s not necessary because she’s hopeful the new treatment she’s on will work! We’re going to keep monitoring the situation but I told her that there is a chance we’re going to do what you all recommend.
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