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Just Said Yes September 2019

Sick for wedding - How to make it up to the couple?

Lisha , on October 11, 2019 at 1:12 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

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My husband and I were scheduled to drive to a destination wedding this morning. We are good friends of the couple. The wedding is tomorrow, and it's about an eight hour drive away from our home. We were really looking forward to it, and planning a long weekend around it.

Unfortunately, my husband has come down with something and is totally wiped, so doesn't have the stamina for the drive. We are obviously hugely disappointed that we can't make it.

I called the bride this morning to let her know. She was gracious though also disappointed. We've already sent a gift, so how can we make it up to the bride and groom?

We just got married a few weeks ago, so we know how much effort goes into planning a wedding and these are friends we value and want to keep!

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Latest activity by Chandra, on October 11, 2019 at 4:56 PM

Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on October 11, 2019 at 1:16 PM
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Maybe take them out to dinner to celebrate once your husband is feeling better and they're back and settled.
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Anna · on October 11, 2019 at 1:35 PM
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Can you go by yourself or with a date (friend)? I'm sure she would appreciate you making the effort solo if your husband is sick. Especially since it's all paid for at this point.
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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on October 11, 2019 at 1:45 PM
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If it were me, I'd probably send another $100 in a card and suggest getting together after the wedding. Especially since we would have spent the gas/hotel money but ended up not so sending it makes sense.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on October 11, 2019 at 2:00 PM
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I like the idea of hanging out with them on a later date
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Champion June 2019
Gen · on October 11, 2019 at 2:21 PM
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I’d take them out for a dinner once he feels better!

Honestly as a bride, as much as people backing out last minute would’ve annoyed me, I would’ve been infinitely MORE pissed off if someone came to my wedding sick, and exposed me to their germs right before my honeymoon! You’re doing the right thing staying home... it sucks for everyone involved but, way better than getting other people sick.

I hope he feels better soon!
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Savvy August 2020
Shayna · on October 11, 2019 at 2:31 PM
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If they are taking a honeymoon right after/ you know where they are going maybe send them a nice Congratulations basket. Champagne, strawberries and other goodies!
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Master July 2018
Mcskipper · on October 11, 2019 at 4:32 PM
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This is a super sweet idea! Otherwise I’d just treat them to a celebratory dinner once they’re back home
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Alejandra · on October 11, 2019 at 4:45 PM
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I think the fact that you called ahead of time is great to begin with. Like others have said, maybe an extra gift and dinner on you once your husband is better? I think that would be wonderful.
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Super April 2020
Emily · on October 11, 2019 at 4:52 PM
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I like the idea of sending them something during their honeymoon if they're taking one. Otherwise, treat them to dinner once your husband is feeling better!
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Master May 2019
Chandra · on October 11, 2019 at 4:56 PM
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We has friends take us to dinner before the wedding since they couldn't make it and wanted to celebrate. It was really nice!
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