Siblings not in Bridal Party

They could do readings during the ceremony, your brother could walk you down the aisle or be an usher. Other than that, I'd just have them sit in the front row with your parents. I for sure wouldn't ask anyone to host your bridal shower, it's usually something people will offer if they want to host. I also don't know if the signature drink is a special decision? But the dance is cute!

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I had my sister do a reading and I also invited them to hang out with me while I got ready. That's another thing you could offer to FSIL if you enjoy being around her. Definitely don't ask her to host the shower as PP stated. Another option could be usher and have them escort people to their seats. I think the reading is more of a special thing, but that could be an option.

I will definitely have her spend the morning with us and stuff. Thanks! Okay, no asking to host

Hi Sarah! I like the ideas given above, I think it would be so sweet to have them do a reading at the ceremony! I also love the idea of having a dance with your brother, I'm sure he would love it! For your FSIL, I think it would be great to invite her to get ready with you as well as asking her to come with whenever you are doing wedding errands!

Why wouldn’t you just add them to your wedding party? I understand you have your reasons, but it seems like such a small thing. I’m my brother’s only sibling (and we’re twins) and my SIL just has one brother. We were both excluded from their wedding party. I was really hurt at the time and even now 23 years later, I don’t have any relationship to speak of with SIL. I guess I never understood the big deal.

If I was your SIL, I’d decline to host a shower really quick. That’s a bridesmaid’s job.

Our siblings are the ushers!

I think it depends on your relationship w them.. if you are close then why not include them in the bridal party.

my husband is the best man in his brother's wedding... they arent that close, complete opposites, have nothing in common BUT their mom and family pressure... it's like you have to include your siblings. His brother should have picked his best friend for over 20 years.. that is a relationship thats been growing, cherished and withstood the time, distance and everything. unlike with his brother/my husband who they went through years of not talking to each other with.

Thats IMO and I know that some cultures are very traditional in that aspect. But i think nowadays if you feel strongly about something - you should just go ahead and do what you want.

They could do readings! My brother and FSIL are not in our wedding party and they’re perfectly fine with it! If you do want to incorporate something, I would definitely have them do a reading. Or have them by the guest book or even cut the cake for everyone !

I am glad they were okay with it. Our families understand we want a small wedding, but want to make sure they are still involved somehow. Thanks!