Siblings in the Wedding Party

Nope. Invite who you are close with. They could be ushers. Or do readings. There are lots of ways to include them. It's totally normal not to have siblings as BM or GM.

My FH has 3 sisters. I didn't ask any of them to be BM. I have a core group of really close friends and that's who I chose to stand beside me. He could have always asked them to stand on his side if he wanted them up there.

This is my second marriage but my first wedding, my sister isn't going to be a bridesmaid at all, and his half brother either, my closest friend and my 3 daughters will be up there and his son and closest friend. I think you should do what feels the most comfortable.

Same situation. I'm an only child and my fiancés family (mother and sisters) have insisted his three triplet sisters are part of the wedding party. I told him if he feels that strongly they can stand on his side. Guess what they're not in the wedding party.

Both my FH and I have brothers. Neither of which are included in the BP for very similar reasons as you. My mother didn't have a problem with it but his mother did. She just had to get over it.

The siblings did not care! They are very happy to show up and party with us

There are no sisters for myself or FH. I have one brother and he has two. We made the decision to not have any siblings to be in the WP so that way no ones feelings are hurt and we can have our friends in it

ETA: FMIL is upset because FH's one brother won't be in it. But FH is 7 years older than him and they are not close. I told him to tell her we are picking our WP not her

Can you ask his siblings to do readings during your ceremony? That way, you can keep your friends in your bridal party and still create places of honor for his family.

I always think it's interesting how we hear these stories where the people who have a problem with it are the moms, aunts, etc. Not necessarily the actual siblings in question.

Last I checked, you're probably an adult who makes your own decisions. Do that here. You're not required to have anyone in your BP that you don't want. End of story.

I think that you should only include people that you're close to. However - now that I think about it, I would be pretty seriously offended if my sister was getting married and I wasn't a bridesmaid, even though we're not close.

Your wedding, your choice. And honestly, no one really does EVERYTHING the traditional way anymore. In fact, my FH's sister isn't doing anything at the wedding except sitting there and smiling. We aren't close, and I feel like the girls are my choice and the guys are his. Go with your gut on this because it's your day and you should do it how you like! I'm sure everyone might have different opinions. But for me, if my FH's sister got upset about it, or anyone else, I would just take that as them being immature and kinda selfish. And I would still continue to do it how it liked.

If he's close with his sister, why wouldn't he ask her? And if he's asking her, he should ask his brother too. Transitioning is extremely difficult and a very isolating experience. IMO, your FH should reach out.

I also did not ask FH's sister to be a BM. We are friendly but not close. I have also seen mixed and uneven sides and don't think it's a big deal. Could they stand on FH's side?

FH was; he was forced to invite his two step-brothers. I invited my closest friends for my bridal party and had my brother and sister be the ushers. I'm closer to my friends then my siblings.

I wasn't in the bridal party for my brother's wedding and I'm still a little hurt by it even though I would never ever ever mention that to him or his wife (I love them both dearly). FH requested we have only a BM and MOH, BM will be his brother (his only sibling) and neither of us have sisters. So my siblings (brothers) won't be in the WP. One brother may play guitar and the other may do a reading (tbd if we are having readings, I did a reading at his wedding). One of my stepbrothers who I'm kind of close to will probably be an usher or some similar type if role to have him involved. The other two steps won't have roles.

My FH has only met my brother twice because he lives in another state, and while I consider his wife to be a sister she'd drive me bat shit crazy if I asked her to be a bridesmaid. FH is from Wisconsin and moved here after he met me at his brothers house, brothers wife has been my best friend for over 11 years although it took almost 10 years for us to meet, anyway all his other siblings are still in Wisconsin. Out of his siblings only his brother and SIL are on the WP on my side only my sister. No one else is butt hurt and no other family has made any comments