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CallmeSam
Expert May 2018

Showing ur wedding dress?

CallmeSam, on July 15, 2017 at 2:28 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 27

I have heard that when the FH sees ur dress before the wedding, it is bad luck to ur marriage.

What are ur thoughts? Any experiences?

27 Comments

Latest activity by Vivian, on July 16, 2017 at 1:44 AM
  • K
    Just Said Yes January 2018
    Kerryn ·
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    I think it's really up to you and what you and your FH want. I'm traditional - and a little superstitious - so with me and my FH, I don't want him to see it until I'm walking down the aisle. But it's ultimately up to you two. Congrats on your upcoming wedding!! Smiley smile

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  • Marie
    Devoted May 2018
    Marie ·
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    Marriage has nothing to do with luck, it's a lot of hard work. With that said my future husband does not want to see my dress and I'm fine with it.

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  • Kim
    Super September 2017
    Kim ·
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    We're not doing a lot of "traditional" things for our wedding but not having FH see my dress is one of them. I can't say if it's bad luck or not

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  • Bee
    Master April 2017
    Bee ·
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    That's an antiquated belief and I don't believe luck has anything to do with my marriage. We work hard to keep our relationship strong so him seeing my dress wouldn't make a difference to us. He didn't see my dress till the first look only because he wanted to be surprised. Nothing to do with luck here.

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  • WW User
    VIP October 2017
    WW User ·
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    There's a lot of hokey bullshit out there. You don't need to buy into it.

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  • ambrok
    Master October 2017
    ambrok ·
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    FH will see my dress at our 1st look...not worried about how that will affect the marriage though!

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  • Jaylynn
    Super November 2017
    Jaylynn ·
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    I would not worry so much about the superstition but I do want to see the look of "awe and surprise" when my honey sees me dressed in a way that he has never seen before. I won't even give him a hint of what I am wearing and while he teases me trying to get information, he honestly doesn't want to know either. Since he rarely sees me super dressed up I am reveling in the shock of it! He's going to lose it when sees the veil - I guarantee he is not expecting that!

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  • Ms. B --> Mrs. L
    Super June 2017
    Ms. B --> Mrs. L ·
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    I don't believe in luck. I didn't want H to see my dress simply because I wanted the first time he saw it to be when I was all done up. I have a sneaking suspicion that he saw a picture of it on my texts though.

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  • Danielle
    Dedicated September 2018
    Danielle ·
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    It's just an old tradition. I'll be keeping my dress a secret from FH just for the surprise and wow factor.

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  • Private_User832
    Master August 2017
    Private_User832 ·
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    Marriage isn't about luck. To me, that's just a superstition. But my fh doesn't want to see it until the day of, so he won't be seeing it

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  • SaraJ
    Super November 2018
    SaraJ ·
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    Obviously it's complete crap and superstition...but I still plan to keep my dress a secret from FH until our first look before the ceremony.

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  • Jan N.
    Super November 2017
    Jan N. ·
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    We are still trying to decide whether we will do "first look" or keep with tradition. We agree our decision will be probably based on if pictures after the ceremony will affect our guest experience.

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  • Alforev
    VIP August 2018
    Alforev ·
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    Well I have a really funny story about this! My FH actually guessed my dress. My mom and FMIL kept saying he's not allowed to know. My mom even challenged him to "go ahead and try to guess!" ... he looked up the store, picked the right designer, and looked through hundreds of dresses then he went "oh this one is very you!" Lol on the first try!!! I was stunned but I also loved that he was able to guess like that because he knows me so well!


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  • WishUponAWilson
    Devoted May 2018
    WishUponAWilson ·
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    I'm keeping pictures and ideas of my dress secret from FH until the first look. I'm very traditional and it took me a while to wrap my head around the idea of the first look but ultimately I wanted to hear his reactions to seeing me on our wedding day and not in front of everyone. But it's too secret til then

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  • Marion
    Super October 2018
    Marion ·
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    I don't believe in the superstitions. My FH weren't be seeing the dress until I walk down the aisle in it because I want to see his face and I want that look on camera with our ceremony around him.

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  • Jacqui
    Super June 2018
    Jacqui ·
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    That's the superstition, but I don't believe in superstition. FH won't see my dress until our first look.

    Besides, I'm pretty sure I've heard that that was to keep them from consummating before the marriage (I may have heard wrong).

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  • KMJ
    Expert May 2018
    KMJ ·
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    My FH came to my dress appointment. I don't believe in the bad luck superstition

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  • Seale
    Master November 2017
    Seale ·
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    I don't believe in that. I have shown FH my dress. I even sent him a picture of me in it. No big deal.

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  • Tiffany
    Devoted August 2017
    Tiffany ·
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    That whole tradition, which I think shouldn't be continued because of it's starting point, is based in the times of arranged marriages. The goal was to keep how the bride looked a secret from the groom until the very last possible second so he could not back out if he thought she wasn't pretty (hence the veil covering the face). If the groom did back out, it would bring huge shame upon the bride's family. What better way to convince someone to marry without looking by saying it's "bad luck"? Bunch of made up mumbo jumbo to support a crappy practice.

    My family is very old school/traditional, and I've fought tooth and nail to ditch certain traditions because I can't stand the ideas they stemmed from. My FH did not ask my dad for permission to marry me, because I own my self and I think it's degrading to me to have to ask someone else if they can be with me. We both love each other, and as long as we both want to marry each other, that is the only permission we need.

    My opinion though, and I know some people like to practice these traditions as they enjoy them or feel it honors their family or find it cute. My FH and I will be seeing each other before the ceremony for pictures/first look as a way to get all the emotions out and help us relax more. The only reason I hide my dress from him and any pictures is because we both want it to be a surprise.

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  • Jess'sgirl
    VIP November 2018
    Jess'sgirl ·
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    He's not seeing my dress before our First Look, but it's not because of luck. I just want his jaw to drop when he sees me. Smiley smile

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