Shower invitation asks for money for group gift...

Errr? That's so awkward!!!

I'm not sure if that's normal but that's very off putting to me.

Ummmmmmm, that's weird. Give it to the host in all pennies

Does it say what the group gift is...

I would be put off by it as well.

This is a new one...did they even list what the group gift would be?!?

Oh wow, that's rude! Don't hold it against the person getting married though, obviously their friends don't have a good grasp of etiquette.

I would "miss" that detail and bring a gift of my choice

Is this an office shower?

No mention of what the gift is. Literally just time, place, RSVP, and "$20 for group gift".

@tricia No, just a normal family and friend weekend brunch shower

Gift the $ or gift something else the couple would need/want. The host(s) is pretty gutsy, I'd say...

Have you searched any typical registry sites to see if they are registered anywhere? This is odd

I'd call and ask what they're giving. And if it's tacky I'd probably tell them that.

I have received shower invitations that list the OPTION to contribute toward a group gift. It is coordinated by the host and it is usually for a larger item such as a kitchen aid mixer or other big ticket item. Guests can contribute ANY amount they wish, it is not dictated by the host. It usually goes over really well as guests just give the money at the event and don't have to shop. At one shower, so many people contributed that the gift ended up being a kitchen aid plus a bunch of the attachments and another major item from the registry. You can't always let people know the group gift in advance because it depends on how much money is contributed.

However, the registry was also listed on the invitation. The group gift was not mandatory. I find this really strange that they are dictating the amount you are supposed to contribute and it seems like there is no other option other than the group gift. That is in poor taste.

Very off putting.

Out of curiosity I want to know what the group gift is.. Just poor etiquette on the hosts part.

That's super weird... They didn't even ask "if you'd like to participate in a group gift"...?

Off-putting and a little confusing, but at least it's only $20!

It's a small amount but I still wouldn't like it. I would get somehting else. If host asks, just say that you had something else in mind for the couple.

I have a group gift on my registry. It's a small registry but I'm opposed to honeyfunds. People have the option to contribute the specific gift (an expensive dining room table that I REALLY want) or choose something else. Or I had one woman at my shower bring me a (obviously regifted) Victoria secret gift card... you know... whatever.

Very awkward. But don't blame the bride, she may not have even known until she got the invitation herself.