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Shower gifts after postponement - Covid19

Meghan, on March 27, 2020 at 7:34 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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I had my shower 3 weeks ago before event bans and the spread of the coronavirus took off. We had to postpone our 4-18-20 wedding but haven’t yet picked a new date. My question is because we are indefinitely postponing because the virus and will likely end up holding a small wedding in the future (originally was 150) do we return the shower gifts? All previous forums say etiquette dictates when you postpone indefinitely to return them. The thing is we are only postponing because of the virus and will be losing our deposits and won’t be able to afford a big wedding in the future. What would you do with the gifts?

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Latest activity by Tatiana, on March 28, 2020 at 3:58 AM

Devoted August 2020
Jordan · on March 27, 2020 at 7:56 PM
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I do not believe you have to return that at all. Guests have to understand how difficult this is on you and how it 100% was out of your control! Thousands of us brides had to postpone or cancel. It’s an act of God that no one saw coming. So send out thank you’s and maybe something in there stating on what your plans are now. So people understand that at this point you may go smaller and they aren’t invited (obviously word it way differently lol).
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Melle · on March 27, 2020 at 8:08 PM
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I don’t think you return shower gifts.
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Devoted December 2020
Rachel · on March 27, 2020 at 8:20 PM
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I think this situation is different. This was out of your control; still send thank you notes as PP said. I don’t think it’s necessary to mention in the thank you note what your new plans/date may be, I would save that for reaching out to everyone individually either via email or phone call!
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Meghan · on March 27, 2020 at 8:31 PM
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Thank you all for your advice and support is so helpful! I sent out my thank yous immediately and all said I can’t wait to see you at the wedding but I think I will craft up something for our wedding site explaining the plan is changing from a big wedding to small. Maybe we will be able to throw a reception party at some point. This is all just to stressful at the moment to figure out.
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Tatiana · on March 28, 2020 at 3:58 AM
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No, those gifts are to celebrate your marriage. You aren't cancelling because you're splitting up. You're cancelling to flatten the curve. I don't think anyone will expect you to return them. Maybe just send an additional line in your thank you cards about how much their support means.
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