Shower Gift

That seems like a lot, and regardless that shouldn't be asked in public. I asked my bridesmaids not to get me shower or wedding gifts at all since they had to pay for the bachelorette & their dress & travel. I only received one shower gift that was over $250, most were in the $25-$50 range.

That seems like a lot, I would say if it’s a joint gift, it should have been discussed beforehand to make sure it was within everyone’s means.

That is way too much. I think I spent about 75 on a bride for her shower gift this last year and I was in the wedding too.

WHAT. I would be so ashamed if my sister did that! It's never okay to ask for money for something before everyone agrees on what and how much. The sister is out of line and you don't need to do anything

I don't think that anyone should tell you how much to spend on a shower gift, you should gift what you can afford or want, and you should most definitely not be asked in public to gift. Personally FH & I discussed and we are not expecting any gifts from the wedding party as they have the dress/tuxes, etc. and many are spending the night before at the hotel.

$250 is pricey, however we have received multiple gifts in the $250 - $300 range (our registry has gifts from $10 - $300) it just happened that all of the early gifters chose gifts on the higher range. So I don't want to say that it's a lot, as different people are in different spots with their lives.

That definitely seems like a lot. I'm honestly curious about what this gift is that multiple people are putting $250 towards....is it like $1000?

I'd spend $50-$100 depending on how close I was with the bride. As the bride, I'd never expect a bridesmaid to give $250 towards a gift. That sounds crazy to me. (Now I can see my parents or grandparents giving $250+ towards a gift, but not a friend)

I agree, that's a large amount you were asked to pay. The bride's sister was rude asking for money and in front of the family!

That's a lot ! My shower gifts were all within the $15-60 range.

I don't think you are wrong in feeling this is too much. I unfortunately would not be in the position to drop $250 on a gift right now either, especially for the shower alone - since you usually purchase a gift for the shower and wedding.

Also not sure if this is how it went down, but from your post it almost seems like it wasn't exactly discussed for the bridesmaids to chip in on a joint gift, rather you were kind of told this is what was happening. I don't think that's very nice either, for her to just assume everyone can afford to chip that amount in without at least asking.

The shower is usually the "shower gift" so anything more from you should not be expected. $250 is very high even in my circle and we are all professionals in our 40s+. The way the sister went about it is very rude as well. If she wanted everyone to pitch in together for a shower gift then she should have asked each of you discreetly if you wanted to do so and then what your budget was so she could choose a gift (or you all choose a gift together) based on everyone's budget.

There is no way I'd spend that much on a gift, or expect anyone too. What is the gift that everyone has to contribute $250? There is no typical monetary value for a gift, whether you are a bridesmaid or not. Your gift should be based off of your personal financial means and what you feel like giving.

Your portion was $250? Hell no! Last shower I went to I spent $35 and they were 6 gifts off the registry I picked up in store. If I was in the WP probably $60-75.