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Just Said Yes May 2021

Shower ethics

Morgan , on March 1, 2020 at 8:41 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

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So my fiancé and I are expected to close on our house in a month. It’s a big time fixer upper, so we won’t be able to move in until later this year. We’re stumped because we literally have NOTHING for home supplies. Our families suggested some type of cook out for a house warming party, but my bridal showers will fall about 3-5 months after that. Would that be too much to ask family and close friends to come to and feel like they have to bring gifts?

Just looking for some opinions. We’re kinda stumped because we have already registered and we feel like it would be too much of a gap between my shower and our wedding if we went ahead and did a shower after moving in.
Thanks y’all!

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Latest activity by Jennifer, on March 2, 2020 at 3:09 PM

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Sarah · on March 1, 2020 at 8:46 AM
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I think you can have a housewarming party and a shower, but I wouldn’t count on many gifts for a housewarming party. Most I’ve been to, those that brought gifts brought wine or a small decor item like a candle or picture frames.
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Just Said Yes May 2021
Morgan · on March 1, 2020 at 8:47 AM
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Awesome! Thank you!!
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Master November 2020
Kristen · on March 1, 2020 at 9:42 AM
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Couldn't you have your shower elsewhere? I wouldn't combine two parties in one day.
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Caytlyn · on March 1, 2020 at 10:05 AM
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I agree with Sarah, I’ve never seen high ticket gifts given at a housewarming party.
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MOB So Cal · on March 1, 2020 at 12:09 PM
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I agree a housewarming can be a different party. Like others said, it is usually about you, as new homeowners, inviting friends and family to come see your home -- an informal cookout seems like a great way to "christen" your new home with loved ones. Any gifts are likely to be things like a bottle of wine or a house plant. Your shower a few months later should be completely different/separate, with someone else hosting it to honor you. However, to clarify, I'd be really careful not to link your registry to the housewarming -- that could potentially come across as "gift grabby." If the registry is already "live" online and an extra considerate guest goes looking for it to find something for the housewarming, that's fine, but I definitely wouldn't do anything to suggest tying the housewarming to the registry.
Congrats on the house!
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Just Said Yes May 2021
Morgan · on March 1, 2020 at 12:10 PM
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Thanks for your opinion! That helps so much!
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on March 1, 2020 at 12:41 PM
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I agree with this. Congrats also by the way!
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Kate · on March 2, 2020 at 8:34 AM
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In my personal opinion, a housewarming party is more so about celebrating a huge milestone in life with your closest family & friends, and showing off your new digs. If your house isn't quite ready yet, maybe hold off on the housewarming party until after the wedding! Usually gifts for housewarmings consist of hand soap sets, alcohol, candles, giftcards, etc. Congratulations on your new home!
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Agarb · on March 2, 2020 at 1:55 PM
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Can you include a link to your registry with the invites for your housewarming party? I think you could phrase it gently like, "If you are so inclined, here are a few items we would love for our new home as newlyweds."
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Jennifer · on March 2, 2020 at 3:09 PM
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I agree with this!
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