Shower Alternatives

One without gifts! Just do food and games and the like.

Have a get together, just don't call it a shower. A shower is meant to "shower the bride" with gifts. Call it a bridal luncheon or something, and emphasize no gifts.

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I'm kind of in the same situation. We bought a house in January and have been living together for 2 years. We registered for "big ticket" items like a backyard gazebo and fire pit and other upgrades for the house that guests can "pitch in" dollar amounts to. We've also got a honeymoon fund set up in lieu of traditional gifts.

We are also considering combining my bridal shower with my bachelorette party. The shower will be on a Friday, just to play games and get little things like lingerie or whatever, and then everyone going to the Bach party will leave Saturday morning and come back Monday.

MOH brought up the idea of a lingerie shower. Had anyone ever been to one?

Don't do a Honeymoon fund. It's tacky to ask for money.

I agree with @GymRat. If you really want no gifts, then call it something else. Have some cool games and activities.

My friends did a joint 'stock the bar' shower, so they asked people to bring along their favorite liquor (or wine). I thought that was a great idea and it was a nice get together.

(Stock the bar for their home, not to be used for the wedding btw, just that there is no confusion )

No to a honeyfund.

Maybe just have a cookout or lunch out and invite everyone so they can all mingle and celebrate without it feeling too much like a shower. I'm honestly racking my brain over the same thing because my fiancé and I have lived together for a while and I feel like I might seem greedy if I ask for gifts at a bridal shower. Let us know what you ended up doing and how it was!

I've never been to a lingerie shower, and I never heard of one until I joined this site.

I'm not a fan - I don't want my friends/family gifting me bras and panties. I'll buy my own TYVM. But if you want that, then more power to ya.

You can do a recipe shower.

My best friends mom had a stock the liquor cabinet party as her bridal shower since they already had everything they needed. They served a variety of Margs and mixed drinks to try and we all brought a wine or liquor themed gift. It was honestly so much fun.

She also had a lingerie shower thrown for her and I ended up just bringing a gift card bc I thought it was a little weird but it was still fun. I much preferred the liquor party

Stock the liquor cabinet, monogram ( with margaritas or mimosas) lawn and garden shower

Have the guests bring their favorite recipes or best suggestions for date night. You can still play the games and socialize without the gifts.