Should We wait to remarry till My fiancé’s adult daughter has her wedding?

It is very considerate to take into account her feelings. However, you should do what is best for your couple. I would suggest not having the weddings close to one another. If you don't need to be married right away for a specific legal reason then take your time and enjoy being engaged. Do not put your life on hold for other people.

I think it’s very considerate for you to ask, and I think to ask her how she feels would be a good start. Again, I would try not to have them too close to each other and do your own thing in terms of picking out colors, decor, etc. And be sure that both of your days are truly special

Yes definitely. You know how you felt your wedding day I’m sure. That could be devastating for a child (grown or not). I would say wait and celebrate with her for her day. You know girls... might end up feelings as though the focus is shifted from her and taking her father away from her first and hopefully only big wedding day.


It’s no rush during the pandemic 😂. Me and my FH claimed being engaged anyways before an official proposal lol

I agree with the other comments - I would just make sure the weddings aren't too close to each other. Has his daughter picked a date yet for her wedding? If so, you can still get engaged/pick your date/start planning, I would just pick a date that's nowhere near hers. It's very considerate of you to make sure that the two weddings don't interfere with each other, though don't put your life on hold. Chances are, no matter what year you choose to plan your wedding for, you'll likely know someone else who is also planning their wedding for that year.

I agree with those who say have discussion with her about your date. If she has chosen her date already, work from that. The upside to waiting a bit is that the pandemic restrictions in place in many places may be lessened and it could allow you more freedom in your planning. My hope is that she'd be happy that her dad has found someone to spend the rest of his life with and will be happy for you both. But I also agree with those who say you don't want to them TOO close together -- that's just a lot of stress and work for all involved. I'm actually in a similar situation, but reversed. We got engaged and set a date and then his daughter got engaged a few months later and set her date -- 3 months after ours. LOL. We're okay with that though.

Unless hers is in the next 2-3 months, so waiting would be No Big Deal, you should not need to delay your wedding for more than a week or two anyone else's. Yours will be smaller. And though even a week is okay, a month to six weeks should allow you to be back the week before hers, if you take a honeymooon. And if you would like to attend her shower, talk with the hostesses so they hold it on a different date. Nobody including step daughter needs weeks and weeks or months of an imaginary spotlight. That is a creation of TV dramas and celebrity tantrums at not being the sole focus of attention. In the real world, other people including friends or family have births, birthdays, baptisms, confirmations, bar mitzvahs, graduations and weddings all around any Bride's day. Likely less than 1/6 of her guests will be involved . And people who love you can find room to love their own family without running out of love and attention in any given month.

Its up to you. I recommend doing something small like microwedding or elopemwnt or courthouse wedding if you have to have it before her. Otherwise then maybe you should wait at least 6 months after her.