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Just Said Yes October 2020

Should We Invite our Family and Friends?

Michelle, on August 4, 2020 at 2:46 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

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Hello! I hope everyone is hanging in there. My (now) husband and I were suppose to get married on 4/25/2020. We postponed it until 10/10/2020 and last week made the tough decision just to cancel it. We also went forward with getting legally married on 6/26/2020 over zoom with our parents watching but no wedding attire. We’re still planning on a celebration next year.

We understandably are not able to get our venue deposit back, but they are nice enough to give us a 2 night stay and dinner on the weekend we were suppose to get married in October. We thought it would be cool to dress in our wedding outfits, take professional photos and get my hair and makeup done, and recreate what would have been with just the two of us.
I am going back and forth if we should invite immediate family and possible a few friends to join us. We are deeply concerned about our family and friend’s health but I’m also concerned that our parents will never see us in our wedding attire. Do you guys think we should keep it just the two of us or invite family? Thank you and sorry for the long post!

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Margaret · on August 4, 2020 at 7:18 AM
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Personally, I'd invite the parents. I think having our parents present is so much more valuable and important that having friends around. Friends will always be there and you can do celebrations at a later date with them.
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VIP August 2020
· on August 4, 2020 at 10:52 AM
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If it's not too far of a drive, could you invite your closest friends and family for dinner the first night when you'd wear your wedding attire and everything, then send them home while you stay overnight for the next two nights? If not, would you consider wearing your dress to your future celebration?
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Just Said Yes October 2020
Michelle · on August 4, 2020 at 11:15 AM
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Thank you for your input! I’m thinking the same thing.
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Just Said Yes October 2020
Michelle · on August 4, 2020 at 11:18 AM
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I will be wearing my dress to the future celebration, I forgot to mention that. It’s difficult to plan dinner for bigger groups (just our parents with their spouses would be around 8 people) and not sure of the COVID policies.
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VIP August 2020
· on August 4, 2020 at 1:08 PM
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Yes, it definitely is harder to plan things because of covid. I thought the reason for inviting people was because you're worried they won't see you in your wedding attire. If you'll be wearing it to your future celebration, I don't think there's any need to invite them to your getaway.
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Michelle · on August 4, 2020 at 1:17 PM
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Thank you for your advice! It’s just the uncertainty if a celebration will actually happen. Appreciate your suggestion.
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Martha · on August 5, 2020 at 3:16 PM
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I greatly agree, I feel our parents have priority over our friends if we decide to get married in a smaller ceremony. My friends would be totally fine having a reception or get together afterwards if its what worked best for us. My parents would not be as forgiving if they missed the "I dos".
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