Should we cancel the wedding?

I think this totally depends on you two and what you can handle!

Have you paid for most of your wedding vendors yet? Can you get any of that money back? You definitely don't want to lose most of that money if most things are already paid for! If so, I would just go forward with it, maybe cutting costs on additional items (decor, etc.). There are tons of DIY options to save you money! My FH lost his job right when we began wedding planning, and just now started his new job (he also was in Grad school, just graduated last month). Things have been tight, but DIY and keeping the guest list down has helped a ton! We had already reserved the venue and put down deposits that we couldn't get back, so we just kept going!

If you are still early in planning and haven't put much money down, then canceling may be better for you. But honestly, you and your FH should sit down and go over everything together, and then make the decision that works best for the two of you!

First of all, I'm really sorry you are going through this. Will your FH be able to get another job quickly? If you guys think you can work it all out, I definitely wouldn't cancel the wedding. Have him start reaching out to anyone he knows that may be able to connect him with some new opportunities. After a lay off, you really want to network and put yourself out there to try and get something set up ASAP. I would start there and see if anything comes up before canceling the wedding. Good luck!

I’m so sorry you’re going through this!
I agree with pp, I would like at what you’ve already paid towards the wedding, and if it’s a substantial amount I would see if you’re able to get it back or not. If not, definitely don’t cancel. I hope everything works out!

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I think that decision really depends on how much you’ve already paid and how much is left. I would think that 100 days out, a good amount of money has been paid and can’t be refunded.

I would go through with it! We are struggling too. Jobs and housing are causing stress but we want to go through with the wedding.

Does your wedding have several out of town guests that need to book plane tickets? If not, I would definitely keep things going as planned. If possible, try to not buy any additional things for the wedding until everything gets settled. Can you maybe scale back your guest list while still hitting the venue minimums? Hopefully you are able to make some adjustments so that you don't have to cancel completely.

I think this is a rock thrown at you two and I think you two can def. handle it. It may seem like the weight of the world is on your shoulders right now- at this moment... But, it will get better. We had the same issue... My FH got told he needed to look for a different job because his employer was at risk of losing his business. Thank God FH found one fast (at lower pay which hurts us a bit) he has been there 3 weeks and he just got a conditional offer at his dream job yesterday. EVERYTHING happens for a reason... Even when it doesn't make sense at the time. This is not the first nor the last curve ball that will get thrown at us or at you two. Married or not. So this all depends on if you still have the finances to continue planning the wedding. 100 days is cutting it close to just cancel. I don't think you should give up your wedding (unless you just cannot afford it). I think being married and having these hard times will strengthen your marriage.

Keep faith and with God's grace your FH will be blessed with another employment opportunity. When one door closes, another door opens. Remember that.

What do you have left to do? With 3 months out, we were close to paying everything off (had the money aside) but everything was pretty much planned out. I think if you're pretty much in the home stretch, I'd still have the wedding. If you have a ton to do and pay for, maybe something smaller or postponing would be best. Totally your decision!

I am totally understanding how you are feeling right now! Granted I have more time, but my FH got laid off in April, got a job a week later, and just got fired from said job. His finances have been crap since I met him and we finally solved that issue when we thought he had a stable job (got a loan). I didn't expect him to help out much financially with the wedding, but I can't support both of our bills and pay for the wedding. We will still have the wedding, but I'm thinking he'll have to get over the fact we may have to use cheaper things for it. We are having a formal wedding and he pretty much thinks anything cheap isn't formal enough. *eyeroll* But I'm just hoping and praying he gets a good job that can pay the bills and that it will be kept at least until after the wedding. So, I hope your FH can find a good job soon as well! Good luck!

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I'm so sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you and FH. Apply for unemployment benefits asap. Have confidence another job is coming but don't lose time.
If you can swing in the last payments for the wedding, do it. You two really need something to look forward to right now. I'd doubt any money could be retrieved from what you've already paid anyhow. Take his sudden time off to make the house shine for listing. Get top dollar. Moving into an apartment for a couple of months won't be so rough if it comes down to it. Fresh start like a younger married couple!

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Agree! I'm sorry for the news. Of course the decision is up to you both, but I agree with Alexis.