Should this person be my officiant?

So as long as everyone is okay with it. I don’t see a a problem with it

View Quoted Comment Everyone does seem okay with it, except me lol. And it is not that I’m not okay with it, I would be, it just feels so weird 😂

If you feel weird about it, I wouldn't have him as your officiant. If you don't mind and everyone else is on board with it, I think it's perfectly fine.

View Quoted Comment I can understand that. You have to think of it as a family friend doing Alton a favor

It was suppose to read doing You a favor >>>

As long as everyone is comfortable I don't see why that would be a problem. But if it doesn't feel right to you, I would try to find someone else.

I personally wouldn't be comfortable with it. My ex's parents are close friends with my parents so they are invited to the wedding, which I am not super thrilled about but my parents are paying for half of the wedding and haven't asked for anything except for their guests. I couldn't even imagine having an ex's family member marry me to another man. I feel like there has to be someone else, especially if you aren't feeling comfortable with it.

That’s would be too weird for me. And weird isn’t a feeling I want on my wedding day.

I personally would be weirded out but it sounds like it’s also something where they’re just good friends and everyone seems fine with it. But if you’re not then I think it’s ok to have someone else

I don’t think I would do this, personally. It was important to me to be SUPER comfortable with our officiant bc they were literally the most important person there (without them, no marriage!), so I didn’t want to feel anything other than all in. Even with everyone on board, that you feel a hint of weirdness to me is a Full Stop situation. There are hundreds of other professionals available with no history, so I’d exhaust those options first.



I say this too as a person who really would have no issue if it was my husband’s ex’s parent — id be like your FH- doesn’t matter much to ME. *HOWEVER* when I think about it in terms of the specific example, sure I don’t mind, but I start thinking about who would mind. Maybe I feel okay and my partner feels okay and the officiant feels okay, but in the back of my head I’d be thinking— does the ex feel okay about it? And if that concern was in my head AT my wedding, that’s kind of a day ruiner . And even if the ex had said “yeah what do I care” and approved, I’d worry about still having that lingering thought.

View Quoted Comment In the very beginning of the planning my parents thought I should invite just the exes parents as guests but I didn’t particularly want to do that either. I just feel like that is a different season in my life and it seems weird to intertwine that.. I just wanted to see if maybe I’m totally weird lol.
Thank you.

View Quoted Comment I definitely see where you are coming from, the ex is also getting married soon so I would worry about how she felt too. I do have another option for someone else, they just aren’t as close as this particular person is.
Thank you.

Since you are having reservations about it, I would go with someone else!