should the bride and groom drink at the wedding

Mary J. i think it's very wrong because i intend to drink and party like it's 1999, lol, so i'm not gonna stop him from enjoying himself.

It's your day and it's totally fine to ask him not to have to many. I personally had a couple of drinks when I got married. However if your fiance is the type of person who may "get out of control" than you should discuss this with him. If he can handle the night with only a few drinks Than I see no problem with also. Hopefully you both will find a middle spot for this issue. Good Luck from Brian

It's fine for him to have more than one or two if he can handle it. If not then that's something you really need to discuss.

We are gonna drink.. I wanted a bit more variaty in beers that we served so I want bottles instead of a keg and FH said "thats such a pain you have to open another one then another one then another one..." after we got off the phone I was like wow how much does he plan to drink?? But really Its the day of your life live it up have fun and I agree with Betty party like its 1999!!!

I have seen very drunk grooms and I think it's not so nice. But I guess I would not mind if it was the last hour or so of the reception and for the after party, that's fine.

I'm sure he will be quite upset if you forbid him to drink though.

It's really up to. But in my case my fh and I party togethor. And we are paying for our own wedding and reception. So I refuse to pay for an open bar and not be able to take advantage of it.

So I think it's ok. Just speak to him before and let him know don't party party get wasted too much

I think my FH will be able to control himself with the number of drinks he has and I'm not much of a drinker but yes I will be drinking and enjoying myself that day

My FH and I decided to not have any alcohol period. We are paying for the entire wedding on our own and I am not fronting the money for anyone to get wasted. But it is totally up to you. If you are worried he will get carried away just talk to him about it

I think it's fine to ask him not to drink too much. Not to drink at all may not be nice unless you are a recovering alcoholic and need your groom's support. I will be drinking but my FH does not drink at all. I don't need to drink to have fun, I just enjoy a drink here and there but I am gonna have my MOH control how many drinks I have that night because I in no way want to get s-faced and emberrass myself or pass out and not remember my own wedding night.

I'm with ditmara... We are doing beer and wine and I LOVE wine!!! I'll have a few drinks but I don't want to get wasted andy fh feels the same... Let our guests have the crazy fun (many of the younger crowd drink and lots of the adults like wine) I say let him enjoy himself but not to excess and make sure you talk about it before the day to avoid an smears "you've had enough" conversation with your tipsy new husband... And a sloppy wedding night

It's the biggest party you will ever throw! So I say do want you want and enjoy yourselves!!!

If you are worried he'll get carried away, you could always remind him of the fun AFTER the reception...he probably won't want to be to sloppy drunk for that

We will definately be having a few drinks, but wont be getting drunk until the after party at the hotel. I dont want either of us to drive down the mountain drunk. And a limo isnt in the budget.

I think you can have a talk before the wedding about trying not to overindulge too much during the reception... but not about not drinking at all. I think all that does is almost encourage drinking at the reception-- he might not have really thought he was going to get wasted until you talked about it with him, you know? Plus... have you worked out driving plans yet? That might be an easy way for you to ease him into not drinking too much... especially if you aren't having a limo/driver

I dont think you or him should be restricted from drinking. However, based on what ive seen and heard from other brides, there wont really be anytime for either of you to get hammered. You will be so busy talking and greeting and dancing, that you will barely have time to eat, let alone stand around and drink.

I think you guys should definately discuss your concerns and come to an amicable agreement..it's hard to limit yourself [after-the-fact] sometimes when you're having fun, so be sure to discuss it prior to. We aren't big drinkers, but we do plan on indulging..it would be funny to see fh drunk though!! He's such the suit-and-tie guy!

I've seen both brides and grooms get sloppy drunk at their weddings, and it wasn't a pretty sight. Usually, it's pretty embarassing. But only you know how your FI responds to alcohol and if he can't respect his limitations. If you ask him to limit his consumption, will he respect that? Some won't.

As for us, we don't drink. I take meds to control migraines that doesn't mix with alcolhol, and my FI is a recovering alcoholic. We do plan on having alcohol available for our guests, though.

My FH and I made a pac that we wouldnt get sloppy. We both know when to stop. Also, if you do get drunk, the time will fly by so fast that you will wonder why u spent all that money on something you dont even remember. Im going to make the best out of my day even if it means only a couple