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Andrea
Just Said Yes March 2020

Should people be asking for favors of the bride and groom after the wedding?

Andrea, on February 25, 2020 at 8:32 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 2 39
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After the wedding, we plan on having breakfast, saying our goodbyes and leaving for the airport on our honeymoon. In our minds, our honeymoon starts the minute we leave the reception. But my mom wants us to take my brother to the airport because she doesn't want to and I feel it's kind of rude to be asking us any favors like that when we just want to relax. Thoughts?

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Latest activity by Ellen, on February 28, 2020 at 8:58 PM
  • Neeva
    VIP September 2020
    Neeva ·
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    Um yeah that's not going to happen. Your honeymoon definitely starts right then and there and you should not be shuttling your brother to the airport. He can uber or someone can drop him off but definitely not for you to do!

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  • Jordan
    Expert March 2021
    Jordan ·
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    I would absolutely have someone else take him. You worked so hard on the wedding, the second you leave that it is time to enjoy your vacation!

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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    Nope absolutely not, you are no ones chauffeur that weekend! People should be doing favors to help you, not the other way around.
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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    Definitely not your responsibility! Tell your brother to get an Uber.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    This. Unless he’s a child then a parent can take him.
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I agree with the others I don’t really think that’s something you should be doing just cus she doesn’t want to
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  • Jasmine
    Master August 2021
    Jasmine ·
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    Your mom got another thing coming! "I don't want to" is so childish and definitely nowhere near a perfectly good reason. That's pure laziness. I'd tell her to figure something out.

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  • Alejandra
    Super November 2021
    Alejandra ·
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    I don’t agree with PPs. If you were going out of your way to take him, absolutely say no. However, it sounds like you’re going to the exact same place at the same time and chances are that if he needs to fly anywhere after your wedding, he was only there for the wedding - he went for you. I think it’s a little selfish to say no just because you want an extra two hours of honeymoon in an airport.
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  • C
    Dedicated April 2020
    Cindy ·
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    If you are going to the airport then take him. If your plans do not include the airport then graciously bow out.
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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    If your mom can’t take him then call Uber. You are correct in that’s it’s your time to relax and people shouldn’t be expecting you to do things.
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  • Lauren
    VIP February 2020
    Lauren ·
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    I agree with others! That's definitely not your responsibility that weekend.

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  • Sherry
    Master September 2019
    Sherry ·
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    It is as easy as saying no.

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  • Alyssa
    Super December 2021
    Alyssa ·
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    I am doing NOTHING for ANYONE my wedding weekend, I am paying $200+ a head for them to come to my wedding.

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  • Rose
    Devoted February 2020
    Rose ·
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    No way...she's so wrong for asking that of you.

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  • Samantha
    Expert October 2021
    Samantha ·
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    If you are going to the airport at the same time then I don't see the problem. You could even ask him to drive so the two of you can relax in the back seat. If you have to go out of your way then no.
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  • Cathy
    Just Said Yes August 2021
    Cathy ·
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    If your brother can manage himself-let him take uber, lyft or taxi whatever works and if he mature enough, he would truly understand. It is definitely tiring planning the wedding and I, myself wants to relax after the wedding and not worry about anything else.

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  • Lisa
    Expert October 2021
    Lisa ·
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    Yeah... that would be a hard no from me.

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  • Molly
    Super October 2020
    Molly ·
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    I would tell your mom no. This should not even be a question she should of asked. Hope you are able to convience her that no you will not take him to the airport.
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    Put your brother in an Uber and enjoy your honeymoon!

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    We personally didn't care. After the wedding, we went back to the hotel and within about 20 minutes my father in law knocked on the door to drop off our extra food. We were so thankful because we were starving! The next day, my husband drove one of his groomsman to the airport and I drove to meet our planner to get our decor from her. We didn't leave for our honeymoon until Monday and we didn't mind doing stuff for our friends & family because they did SO much for our wedding. We hung out in the lobby from 8AM-10AM just saying goodbye to all our guests.

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