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Julie
Beginner September 2021

Should my soon-to-be mother-in-law get an invite to the bridal shower?

Julie, on December 10, 2019 at 10:05 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 8

Soo my fiance is somewhat estranged from his parents due to a falling out from several years ago, but we have decided to invite them to the wedding as somewhat of an olive branch, because we don't want to create anymore separation than there already is. My only interaction with his mother was about 1 minute long at a family member's party that we attended very early on in our relationship, where I was able to introduce myself, but she barely said hello back. It's been about a year since then and still no communication.

We aren't trying to rebuild the relationship but we certainly don't want to drive the wedge further.

I know the bridal shower should be for close friends and family, but both of my fiance's sisters are in my bridal party, and pretty much every other female family member from my fiance's family will be getting a bridal shower invite.

Should I invite her so she doesn't feel left out/upset, or would it be weird to invite her?



8 Comments

Latest activity by Nicole, on December 15, 2019 at 11:34 AM
  • V
    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I am guessing he is still close with the rest of his parents aside from his family since they are being invited to the bridal shower and his two sisters are bridesmaids. Personally, I would invite her in order to avoid more drama. It is very likely she would find out about the shower if you are inviting other people in her family that she might be hurt if you don't invite her. Although you don't own her anything it would probably just be easier to invite her and hope she doesn't attend. She might even decide on her own she doesn't want to attend since she barely knows you. You will among a bunch of other people that you do know so if she does attend you likely won't even notice her.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I wouldn't. If you don't have a good relationship, I don't think that a party that's all about giving you gifts is the best place to work on it.

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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    I feel like it would not hurt to invite her is you are both trying to rebuild the relationship. If she has a sour face while there then it looks bad on her end.

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  • Taylor
    VIP October 2020
    Taylor ·
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    I would invite her if you're trying to extend the olive branch. If you're relationship isn't the best, she might say no anyway but it would be a nice gestureSmiley smile

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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    Would it bother you if she showed up? If you don’t want her there, I don’t think you have to invite her. But if you’d be fine with her coming, I think you should extend the invitation. She may not even show up.
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  • Julie
    Beginner September 2021
    Julie ·
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    I don't have any problem with her, but I'm a little concerned about some of the other family members and the bad blood between them. But I guess at that point she probably just wouldn't feel comfortable coming, which is okay too. At least if I invite her, it shows I'm making an effort, and the rest is on her

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    In this case, I would go ahead and invite her. As you mentioned, the ball will then be in her court. She can't say you didn't try!

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  • Nicole
    Super October 2021
    Nicole ·
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    I would send the invite since her daughters/other family members will be attending. She can choose to come/not come

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