Should my Sister-In Law be in my wedding party?

If she's over-opinionated, she'll be that way whether she's a BM or not. I asked my FSIL to be in the wedding, and she's so excited! I'm excited to have her be a part of it, and she's actually been great so far. I say go for it since you're close, and if you're worried about her opinions, don't give her too much info, and be prepared to just just smile and say "thanks for the idea" ... and then do what you want.

Were you guys just as close when she married your bro and didn't ask you to be in her wedding? If so, I would say don't bother especially if she is over-opinionated. If not, then I would consider it. She's family after all. But it's always what you think is going to work best for your wedding.

I don't think you are obligated - honestly, do people really even want to be bridesmaids unless they are really close to the person? (sorry if this is cynical, I just know that I only wanted to a bridesmaid when I was particularly close to the person - like my sister, for example). I think it is really up to you. Do you have more groomsmen than bridesmaids? If you need 1 more and you don't know who else to include, then maybe you could include her. But weddings are complicated enough without having to deal with drama. Do you think she would be offended if you didn't include her? I'm not having my brother's girlfriend they've been together a while) nor my brother-in-law in the wedding party. I honestly never considered it, but we are having a very small wedding party so it may be a little different.

If you want her to be, then do it! My FSIL is going to be in my bridal party

I have both my sister in laws in our wedding. The one in fact is my matron of honor. I don't fe you are obligated to ask anyone you don't want too. I was forced into asking my sister to be my maid of honor and I was miserable. I wanted my two nieces in it so bad. Well just as I knew huge fight and sister and nieces are no longer in the wedding. I'm heartbroken over nieces but could care less about my sister. Whoever you ask, make sure they have your best interest at heart and that they understand just who's wedding it is

My fiance has four brothers, three are married. I am not putting them in. We may not be as close as you are you your FSIL. The way I see it, the wedding party is about who is super close with you. Not about who you might be family with. So, if you guys are super close and you consider her a good friend (and not just a FSIL) then do it! If not, then reserve the BMs to those super close with you!

If you have to come to an online forum for input on it, I'd say you already know that you don't really WANT her in it .. you're just feeling obligated. And you weren't in HER wedding, you were in your BROTHER'S wedding.

My sisters husband is a groomsman in our WP, we weren't planning on it but my sister dropped strong hints! I think it's a nice gesture and if you don't care that much why not?

I agree with Christina G. If you don't have strong feeling either way then go ahead and include her.

I am having my SIL and my FSIL in my WP. I wasnt in either of theirs but was invited to my brothers wedding (LONG story) Now if you dont feel strong either way.....I would ask myself if it would create an issue between you and her and you and your brother? Will it cause you the need to add another GM to even it out?

I would say only if you want her to be in it. The choice is yours though. I didnt have my SILs in my wedding party and they were not expected to be either. If you guys are close I would say go for it. Good luck!!

I would say that if you don't feel strongly about having her in your WP, then don't. I only picked the women I absolutely KNEW I wanted at my side on my wedding day. And over-opinionated? Oh no....that just sounds like something that would brew trouble. If she wants to be involved some other way in planning I'm sure you can find space...Grand Hostess Extraordinare?

My brother and I aren't close and my FH and him are certainly not close. We didn't put him in, but our bridal party is quite small (2 bm, 2 gm)

If you think there is any chance she's going to cause extra stress/drama leave her out! Especially if you don't seriously WANT her to be part of the WP. I asked FSIL to be a BM because I thought that maybe I "should". HUGE mistake, BMs are hard enough to deal with, adding people that you don't seriously want there will just cause more headache. I ended up telling FSIL that our relationship apparently wasn't as appropriate for her to be a BM as I had originally thought and kicked her out ( She was pulling major shenanigans though, not saying yours would but even a smaller scale of trouble would be a pain in the butt). Keep it to the girls that you really feel most comfortable with and really have a desire to be there with you.

I think if you didn't have the initial want for her to be in the bridal party, then don't ask her to be.

As soon as FI and I got engaged I knew I WANTED my brother and cousin standing by my side. It wasn't a debate.

It sounds to me that you are leaning more on NOT having her. Hey, it's your wedding and it's your decision. There are lots of ladies in my life and I am only have 2 of them in my ceremony (one MOH and one Matron). People may disagree or be "hurt" but that's their problem. Do what you feel is right. Though, honestly, I think if you wanted her in the first place, you would have asked her already. Tell your sister to hush.

I agree with the ladies above. I asked my FSIL to be in mine and am regretting it at this point. If you are superclose then, YES! But, if not don't ask out if you feel like you should. By the time the wedding comes she will get over it and if she holds a grudge that is probably someone you don't want in your wedding party to start with. Good luck!

I have my FH sister in my bridal party, but not my FH's brother's wife. I really would have added her, but I already had six bridesmaids with my close friends. She completely understood not being in it. If any issues come up, just explain that there are a lot of ladies you've always expected to be in your bridal party.

My brother refuses to be in my wedding party if he isn't standing up with his wife... and I refuse to have her part of my wedding party...what do I do??

My brother and I are Irish twins and were always inseparable until I moved away after college, but even still we talk a couple times a week! He's my best friend. To make matters more complicated, he wants my husband to be a groomsmen while I sit there. It's not his choice. His fiancé is having 8 bridesmaids, so he already had trouble deciding who he wanted to have as groomsmen, so adding me into the mix, would have made it impossible for him. I just wish he could have at least asked me to be on his side. I know that's not exactly traditional, but we don't exactly have a traditional sibling relationship. This really makes my heart hurt and has made me cry a lot, but I haven't confronted him. I know he must be stressed out, thinking of how I'm taking it.

To be clear, I think his fiancé is wonderful. I haven't had the opportunity to be as close with her as I have his other girlfriends because we live far apart now, but she really seems like everything he needs. It just really sucks that I can't be apart of his big day beyond attending. I never thought that this would ever be something I'd have to deal with in a million years. Me being in his wedding always felt like a no-brainer. I don't know what to do or say. I'm so hurt.