Should my niece be in the wedding party?

And also.... my fiance has asked 4 men to be groomsmen. He has a 5th person in mind, who he would also like to ask. Adding my niece to the wedding party would put us at an even 5 & 5. But then I must ask, is it appropriate for a 15 year old girl and a 29 year old man to accompany each other down the aisle? Maybe I'm overthinking it.

I think this is a little tricky but she is only a child still at 15 and her feelings may indeed be hurt. Wedding parties don't need to be even but if the 5 and 5 makes you happy I'd say do that.
As a junior bridesmaid I don't think it would be odd to have an adult walk to down the aisle. They are just walking, then separating to different sides at the end. At least that is my opinion on it.
If you really don't want her as a junior bm or the 5th guy can't/declines and you want even numbers then maybe she can assist the younger child? It would be really cute to see them matching and holding hands or something. Their mother could stay standing with you for the ceremony this way, too. The older sibling can be responsible for walking her down the aisle then sitting with her as a chaperone to her sister the rest of the ceremony. I feel like this would relieve the mother, too, since she is supposed to be standing with you but young children get antsy and sitting for any period of time unaccompanied can be difficult.

This is the reason I’m having 2 flower girls. My brothers oldest who will be 8 when we marry adores me (and I her) so I want her to be a junior bridemaid. She has a younger sister who will be a flower girl (my brother would be upset if I asked one and not the other). My niece has a daughter a year younger than my brothers youngest so I’m asking her to be a flower girl as well. If it’s a simple enough thing to do I would just ask instead of running the risk of hurt feelings. I think if she was an adult it might be different but at 15 it would probably hurt her feelings.

View Quoted Comment I agree with everything said here. Of course you don't have to have anyone in your wedding you don't want to, but if you're having your younger niece in your wedding it would be sweet to have your older niece in it as well. And it's certainly not inappropriate to have an older groomsman walk with her down the aisle. It's a short walk.

I was 15 when I was my sister's MOH so I feel like that age might be too old to be looped into the "junior" category. I walked with a guy in his late 20's. It was a little strange just cause he was an awkward dude lol but was fine. You could honestly have the GM walk in with the groom and the BM walk in individually if you are worried about that.

My Jr. BMs will be 9 and 12. If you don't want your niece to be a BM, have her do a reading or be a greeter passing out programs. I definitely think she would be hurt if all of her family is involved but she wasn't important enough to be picked.

You guys are all right. I know it would hurt her feelings. I guess I just feel like my family is pressuring me to do things. But I know they are doing it from a good place. Thank you all for your advice. I think I will go ahead and let her be a bridesmaid. 💖

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I'm sure she will really enjoy being a part of your wedding!!

I’m glad you made a choice! On another note we are date twins! December 7th here too!

Oh cool! Date twins! 💜💜