Should my father be a part of my wedding?

Is there someone else who has been like a father figure in your life? I had the same situation. My brother walked me down the aisle and gave me away. My father is just pure negativity and I didn't want that in my wedding or my life. We haven't spoken in almost 4 years and I don't regret it.

I would think really hard about whether or not you want your father there or if you just like the idea of a father walking the bride down the aisle and the father daughter dance. No one can tell you how to feel, but if it truly matters to you to have him there then I would suggest trying to reach out and talk with him prior to sending an invite. Sending an invite to him while nothing is okay will likely result in you getting hurt. Definitely talk to him and maybe any others involved who you feel would be upset, but ultimately it is your decision.

I did not invite or even tell my mother about my wedding. We are not close and haven't talked in years. I would love for my mother to be that person in my life, but she's not. So as much as I want my mommy there in my head. I know it was a bad idea. I don't need that drama on my wedding day, and I don't need to be let down again by her. My stepmom got the honor of 'Mother of the Bride'. She helped me get ready and was front and center for my big day.

Your wedding is not the time for a family reunion; its stressful enough without that. If he has not made any attempt to repair your rlationship, then you have to think about whether your attempt to include him is going to create more problems than it solves.

Personally? I feel like the people in your wedding party (and at your wedding) should be people who have demonstrated their support for you over the years.

If you want to try to talk before hand? do it, but IMHO, at least of a happy life is knowing when to let go of toxic people and embrace the people who love and care for you.

I wouldn't. I don't want any of that surrounding one of the happiest days of my life.

If I had that kind of relationship with my father, I would not invite him.

FH and I are focusing our guests, as well as our ceremony, on those who helped get us through the tough points in our lives and held us up so that we could find each other.

Your wedding is a celebration of love. When you invite people, focus on that. You are celebrating love, life, and happiness. Celebrate with those who bring such to your/FI lives.

Thanks for your opinions, I really don't want this to be a stressful and unhappy time. Perhaps I will get the urge to contact him in the upcoming months before the wedding but I think in my heart I know that he will probably end up disappointing me like all of the other previous times

As a person who never had my father there and only actually saw and met him after my mothers passing I would love for my father to be there. You have to decide if you want to try one more time to make things work. Yes it will be up to both of you but someone has to make the first move. Contact him, talk to him, try to work things out then see what happens. Realize though that you may want this more than anything but if he is not willing to meet you at least half way then you may end up getting hurt all over again. Good luck with whichever decision you make.

My fiance's father and sister left their family over a decade ago. He doesn't want them there at all. My dad and I have a strained relationship, but I invited him and my brothers because I would like to see them. The closer we get and the more I talk to my dad about it, the more I hope he doesn't come. I feel like a terrible person saying that, but it's true.

This should be the happiest day of your life. Don't create unnecessary drama that you'll regret. If you want to try to bridge the relationship, reach out and try to mend it before sending out the invitations. The sooner you know what to expect, the better you can plan. Hope it all works out for you.

I'm not close to my biological father and I don't plan on inviting him. I'm also don't get along with my step father but I agreed to let him walk me down the aisle to appease my mother. Now I'm regretting that decision and may change my mind. At the end of the day, do what makes you feel comfortable and don't worry about what others may think.