Should my dad walk me down the aisle?

My best friend had her dad walk her half way down the aisle and then her FH met her half way, she told her father it was symbolising the start of their walk through life together. Maybe they would be okay with that?

I am in the same boat. I have a very forced and strained relationship with my dad. I chose to have my daughter walk me down the aisle. Him and my stepmom and stepsisters are really butt hurt about it. So butt hurt that none of them came to my college graduation last week.

Will you have someone else walk you in place of your dad, or walk yourself?

I would skip it if you aren't close. The whole "giving away" thing squicks me out 100%.

ETA: I have a good but not close relationship with my dad, and I know he would be hurt if he didn't get to walk with me. Because of that, my FH and I will each walk with both of our parents.

I'm walking myself down the aisle.

You could walk down the aisle with your FH.

Yeah I agree. I've been on my own since I was 18, and I really don't have a relationship with him at all. I feel the whole "giving away" is archaic. But then I worry they will also be butthurt about it for forever, and they've even said they might not even come to the wedding since I've been so disrespectful. Everything with them is seriously a fight, they don't have much money, so they're staying at our house for free, and I asked them if they could at least drive us to the airport for our honeymoon and THAT turned into a big fight where they said I just expect them to do everything. I feel like I am the tired adult and they're the screaming toddlers and I'm trying to decide if it's worth keeping up the battle or just being like fine, have ice cream for dinner I don't care.

Also I was planning on walking myself down the aisle.

I have a work in progress relationship with my father. I am very close with my mom though. Since neither of them will be willing to both walk me down (nor do I want to be in the middle of the world's most awkward sandwich), I am walking alone. My FH may even walk with me down the aisle...we have not decided yet.

I think this is a decision solely for you to make. If you're uncomfortable with the thought of him walking you, walk alone or with someone else. My father is deceased, so my grandpa (my dad's father) walked me down the aisle. I had to come from the side around the seating and then to the end of the aisle, so I walked the first part alone and then met my grandpa at the end of the actual aisle. I strongly considered just walking alone completely, but my mom thought that would be too sad and make everyone think even more so about my dad being gone.

My dad wasn't? really there for me and just like you we talk every 6 months or so and one of those days is usually Christmas. I ended up asking my uncle(his brother) to walk me down the aisle. He has always been there for me and my kids. My dad (being the dramatic person he is) told family members it was like a slap in the face. He even went as far as to call my uncle and told him that he should have said no. After I heard that I was so mad. I made sure my uncle knew that it would mean a lot to me if he still gave me away. I did have to call my dad and tell him how I feel and why I made that decision. Ever since then no one has heard him complain. If u want your dad to give you away then ask him, but don't feel like you have to do it just because they are upset at u. It's your day. They should respect your decision.

Totally okay not to have him walk you! The person walking you down the aisle should be very important to you, if that person is not your father, thats okay!

Sounds like a difficult situation. I think it boils down to how much you want to maintain even the shreds of the relationship you currently have with your parents and is this something you feel strongly enough about to risk that shaky relationship.

A bit of a different situation, but.... My father is deceased, so I have been considering asking my older brother to walk me down the aisle. While we aren't necessarily close (and live states apart), the relationship isn't strained.

Ultimately, I decided being given away is somewhat outdated (though if my father were alive I'd ask him to do it, so I'm a hypocrite.) I'm walking myself down the aisle.

I think it's fine for you to walk yourself down the aisle! Maybe a handwritten letter to him explaining the significance of you walking yourself down the aisle as a grown woman would help? Your mother is being dramatic.

Planning on meeting my FH at the entrance and walking up together

I'm not close with my parent's. , so I'm going to have my little boy walk me down instead : )

You have to do what feels right to you on your wedding day. If you don't want your Dad walk you down the aisle, you have no obligation to. My father is kind of a jerk and my Stepdad is amazing. Unfortunately my father will not be attending my wedding after all but before I knew that, I kind of felt guilty for not wanting my father to walk me but still knew I didn't. I contemplated having one of my brothers walk me down, but decided on my Step father. You can choose to have anybody you please walk you, or even walk your fabulous self. I'm sorry you have parents that aren't always the best towards you. I know the feeling. Just try and remind yourself the day is about you and this wonderful man you will be marrying and ignore the parent BS as much as possible.

1. No one gives anyone away. Look up the sexist/archaic background, of that action.

2. You don't need a male relative to walk down the aisle with you. Refer back to the meaning in #1.

It's common in my family/social circle to have both parents walk with you. Or have the person you feel closest to. One bride I know walked with her grandmother, who had always lived with her family.

Skip it.

No one wants to have a strained relationship with their parents so the fault of your relationship being strained is your father's, ergo, don't force yourself to have him walk you down the aisle. Let him know you're walking alone end of story.

That's what I did. My parents can complain, just not to me. They can come to the wedding or not, but at this point nothing they do would undo my whole life of dealing with their BS. That's how I'm thinking of it.

I also have a strained relationship with both my dad and stepdad. I would have honestly liked my mom to walk down the aisle but I'm equally close with my grandma so she's doing. I figure, who can get mad at a little old lady?