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Should my brother be a groomsman?

Jessica, on March 23, 2019 at 12:05 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 16

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Hi everyone!
My fiancé and I are getting deep into planning, and I want your opinion about who to include in the bridal party. I am most likely going to have just my sister as my MOH and my sister-in-law as a bridesmaid. He is choosing among his close friend group for his best man and groomsman. My fiancé is not close with my brother, although they like each other. Is there etiquette related to including siblings as mandatory? I’m fine with whomever my fiancé chooses.
I would love to include my brother in our wedding in another way- as a scripture reader or something similar. Would that be a god compromise?
Thanks in advance for any input!

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Latest activity by Lex, on March 23, 2019 at 1:46 PM

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Katelyn · on March 23, 2019 at 12:16 AM
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Neither my FH or I were in his sister's wedding and she's not in ours. She's going to be doing a reading though which she's excited about.
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Cynthia · on March 23, 2019 at 12:29 AM
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Siblings do not have to be in a wedding just because they are siblings.. my FH has my little brother as a groomsman but they are close.. and have been since my FH and I started dating.
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Kim · on March 23, 2019 at 5:21 AM
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We only have 2 on each side as well. FH's sister is not a bridesmaid, my brother is not a groomsman. I think your plan sounds good!
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Judith · on March 23, 2019 at 6:17 AM
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Sisters and brothers need not be in your wedding party. Entirely up to each of you, who you choose. If your brother is not especially close to your FI, let him keep just his close friends as Groomsmen.
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Katie · on March 23, 2019 at 7:07 AM
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Its definitely up to you guys. My fiance likes my brother, but they arents like, best friends. However, my brother is one of my best friends, so when I told my fiance I would like him as a groomsman for that reason he was definitely OK with it.

Take it through with your fiance I'm sure you guys will work it out!
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Devin · on March 23, 2019 at 7:47 AM
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We gave my little brother the choice and he doesn’t really want to be in it. He’s walking our mother down instead.
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Nichole · on March 23, 2019 at 8:25 AM
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I told my FH my brother will be one of his groomsman. He did it for me. He didnt mind at all.
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Caytlyn · on March 23, 2019 at 8:50 AM
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Your brother should be a groomsmen if he’s one of your fiance’s nearest and dearest friends and your fiancé can’t imagine getting married without him by his side, that’s the only reason. If you want him to be in the wedding party, you could always have him on your side.
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Mrs. S · on March 23, 2019 at 9:03 AM
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My brother is my bridesman since my fiancé had more close friends he wanted than me. But he doesn’t have to be in your wedding party if you don’t want.
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Judith · on March 23, 2019 at 10:32 AM
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Yes, to be the usher designated to seat mother, grandmother, and some others of their own side ( godparents, step parents) is often an excellent compromise solution. Particularly for 8-16 year olds who really are not buddy buddy, go out with the groom and his friends types, but have the honor of escorting familiar older family to their seats, then joining family as a seated guest.
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Kayla · on March 23, 2019 at 10:40 AM
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I have two brothers and neither will be in my wedding party. I mean my FH and then get along they are all cool they just aren't close enough to stand beside him in his day! And I'm perfectly fine with that! Shoot they aren't that close to me lol!
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Allana · on March 23, 2019 at 10:42 AM
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My sister is in mine but my brother is not. We just left it up to each other to choose who was with us on our sides and then my brother can fill in if need be.
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Justine · on March 23, 2019 at 10:44 AM
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Nope, not a requirement to have siblings!
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Kristin · on March 23, 2019 at 12:18 PM
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Not at all. My brother and I don't have a great relationship and I can't stand his wife. I was not a BM in their wedding and he is not a groomsman in mine. FH's sisters are both BM's for me though. We decided to ask my brother and FH's BIL to be ushers but it was definitely an after thought.
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Amber · on March 23, 2019 at 12:28 PM
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Depends on the relationship you have with him. My brother will be an groomsmen and his gf will be one of my bridesmaids. Just because we all have an great relationship with one another.
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Lex · on March 23, 2019 at 1:46 PM
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All our brothers aren’t going to be in the party, because then he would have like 10 groomsmen 😂 my step sister is going to be my bridesmaid though.
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