So initially my parents were paying for food and my inlaws were cutting us a check that was supposed to cover alcohol and the venue (but they underestimated and we didn't say anything because what they did was still generous), and FH and I paid for everything else. then randomly FILs decided to be more generous and give us another sum of money to help pay for the wedding. I had already saved everything we needed to properly host guests and pay for all the necessary wedding items, but we bought a house a few months ago so I'm also just building up a saving fund for a new roof and some new appliances.
FH and I don't drink at all, so we originally planned to have beer and wine because only 80 of our 200 guests invited drink and most of the ones that do drink are used to weddings in a hall with a keg of beer. However, with FMIL giving us the extra money I'm kind of feeling obligated to upgrade the bar package. Long ago when we first go engaged she said "mixed drinks would be nice" and FH and I told her that the wedding was already quite expensive and that we weren't sure if it was worth the extra 2k to upgrade the bar for just mixed drinks. So the next bar package up is an extra 2k as I mentioned and it has the same beers and wines, but it adds on some cheaper versions vodka, tequila, rum, and brandy. FMIL and FFIL just gave the money to FH to be generous they didn't say anything about upgrading the bar package, but I'm kind of wondering if they wanted that to happen with the additional money. We haven't really discussed our money status with them either so maybe they thought we were struggling and didn't have strings attached to the extra money.
Based on my situation, would you upgrade the bar or use the extra money toward our house savings? Like I said, I don't drink so to me 2k for upgrading a bar is kind of ridiculous considering our bar is already 20$ pp for just beer and wine, but I don't want our in-laws and our guests to be super disappointed or upset either.
