Should I step down as a bridesmaid?

You definitaly should talk to her and let her know that if you want her to do all these other tasks the day of-you dont think you could handle also being a BM-it's just too much. let her know you want to help her but it is either one or the other. but you can't do both-even if it seems like you are super women.-and definitely let her know financially it so too much of a burden. speak up hunnie before it is too late!

Why don't you talk to your cousin and explain your concerns? Maybe she has realized that it is important to have you there, and she may delegate those responsibilities to someone else. Be honest about what you can afford to pay for a dress, etc.

I agree with the other people here. Chat with her first and then see what she things. If you have SOOO many other responsibilities I'd think she'd understand.

I agree too... if you have these reservations, it will likely only end up stressing you and could cause problems between you guys later.

Thanks everyone. I'm going to call my cousin in the morning to talk. I was just asking here first to make sure it wasn't a "OMG don't do that" kind of thing.

She should really pay for your attire under these circumstances, but that's just me...or pick a nice dress under $100 and hopefully you get a major say in it. I think if you are feeling overwhelmed and stressed already, step down. You will still be doing so much to help her. I guess it depends on how close the two of you are and your financial situation, and to some extent for some ladies, how much you like the limelight of being a bm. I wanted to step down also in this upcoming wedding. She wouldn't let me go. But I swear, if it's an unflattering dress, I'm saying NO. There is still some time. We have not bought the dress, but will probably in the next couple of weeks!

Good luck with your situation.

My sister was gonna be in my wedding and she stepped down cause she's basically doing all the things you are for your cousin. I was more than happy about it. Just b/c I know that she is the only one that I can rely on and I don't want to have to worry bout all that stuff. Good luck I hope your cousin understand how much more of a help you can be if you just had one duty instead of two.

I definately think that you should talk to her first. Let her know all of your concerns I'm sure she will understand but don't just drop out before discussing with her.

Honestly, i find it a little odd that your the one doing all those things and she didnt ask you to be MOH. normally isnt that what the moh does? but yeah, if youve already got too much on your plate, then let her know and talk to her about it. i wish i was that close with my cousins!

Well I talked to my cousin and she was fine with letting my husband and I step down.