Should i skip having a shower

I wasn’t hellbent on having one, but my ladies are throwing me one anyway... so I’m cool with that. I feel ya though.

I was originally on the fence about having a shower but my mom really wanted to throw one for me so I said ok. I am SO glad I let her do it... it was such a wonderful day! It was the first time I truly felt like a bride, and it was great to get to spend time with a smaller group of people before the wedding. I also felt like it was really good practice being the center of attention, which is something that stresses me out. Also great practice trying to be a good hostess, balancing my time with everyone that was there! I really felt so loved and happy after that day, and I am just so glad that we did it!

If people don't want to spend money or don't want to go to more wedding events, they're under no obligation to go. Everyone knows they are free to turn down an invitation!

I'm not planning to have one. If my family wants to do it, I'll probably just ask them to make a lunch reservation at a nice local restaurant. Something bright and sunny. This way, no one has to worry about food, decorations, clean-up, etc.

I wasn't going to, but my mom wanted to host one. In the end, I'm really happy she did. I added a lot of lower-priced gifts closer to the shower (under $30) and most of those were purchased. A few people brought me random things like lotions, silk pajamas, spa gift cards, etc. so people were able to spend $15 if they wanted to (or less). I also expected the people who bought larger gifts to not get wedding gifts. I'm happy I had one, it was a great time for guests to meet before the wedding and it was super special!

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much!!! You made a lot of good points. I guess it would be good practice. I hate the spotlight.. lol..

View Quoted Comment Alycia,

thats a a great idea!!!

I think they are fun though. Maybe you can find a way to make it clear that you don’t expect gifts at your bridal shower, you just want to hang out with a fun group of your closest peeps and eat and play games or something. I totally get where you’re coming from though. We don’t have a physical gift registry at all. Just doing a Honeymoon fund. So, my ladies are choosing a gift theme for my shower. Could be anything from lingerie, art supplies, or a “stock the bar” theme! I told them to surprise me and I don’t care what theme they choose. Lol. Keep in mind that people are happy for you and generally enjoy doing nice things for others and don’t find bridal showers to be gift grabby. It’s a day to celebrate you, which is nice every once in a while. 🥰

View Quoted Comment Oh that’s great. I guess I just feel so overwhelmed. Thank you. I may reconsider.

I wanted one. I feel like I just wanted to celebrate with my friends that I'm engaged in a party like that just me and my girls.but you def don't need one. It is a lot money and effort for it. You can always do something super low-key too

View Quoted Comment Oh wow Nykole. Those are great ideas. Thank you so much. I didn’t think of it in that way.

I knew I would have one as it is tradition in our family. Like you, I don’t want people feeling obligated to travel or spend money on me so I told my sisters to keep it low key and no need to have it at a restaurant or anything. Just a local first aid building hall that we already have access to.

View Quoted Comment This!! It prepares you and helps put you more at ease about the wedding sometimes wedding planning can get lonely!

I skipped having a shower, even though someone offered to host one. I couldn't stomach the idea of a party in which the main entertainment was my trying to look enthusiastic about the third toaster I received.

You could do a sprinkle, its a silly name but a good idea. A smaller less formal event where you have like tea and cookies and play some games. Maybe just go out to lunch. Doing a lunch shower makes it odd to bring presents so maybe that's discourage a few people, it'd certainly make people hold off on buying large items.