Should I sing at my wedding?

I would skip it. Based on other threads I've seen, most guests find it awkward to sit through, myself included.

But, it's your wedding, as long as you're properly hosting a song isn't the end of the world.

No..... so awkward for your guests.

On the one hand, you could plan to sing a song your father is sitting in on so that you could practice as much as you need to with him.

On the other hand... do you perform often? Singing in front of a large crowd can be daunting and on top of it you'll have all the nerves associated with the wedding. If it's not something you're experienced / comfortable with you may just be putting a lot of pressure on yourself on a day that you'll already be experiencing a lot of emotions on.

Thanks. I think everyone's right about the nerves. My FH's family has a lot of conflict and many are not attending the wedding so he has been very sad about that. I've been trying to ensure there are things that make him feel loved and supported that day. Most weddings center around the bride and I wanted to dedicate the song to him, but I guess me singing makes it more about me. Soooo... yeah.

No. It's really awkward and it will be nerve wracking on the day as well.

Your band may not want you dad to sit in. It sounds like a no brainer, but it's not....

Every time I have seen a bride (or family member) who is a "professional singer" sing at a wedding it has turned into the singer sobbing hysterically or being unable to hit notes because of their nerves. Even if you are comfortable singing in crowds, it's completely different to do it on one of the biggest days of YOUR life.

I'm a classical vocalist, and I sure as hell will not be singing at my wedding. People have even suggested I should, I'm having none of it. I think your emotions will already be raw, and that will make it very unenjoyable. @FB99 is right; your nerves will be maxed out.

I was thinking about this as well, but know I would get nervous in the moment and anticipate it being very embarrassing. Also, I do think it might be awkward for the guests as sweet as it is.

I have been to a wedding where the bride sang, and it was beautiful. We all cried. So I think if you want too and you're excited too, your guests will feel that and love it. But if it makes you nervous, that's when it might get awkward.

My FH and I are both professional actors and when people ask if we are going to sing or do something performative we tell them no.

It doesn't feel like the time or place, and honestly we do not want the added stress of having to rehearsal something like that so close to the big day.

I'm with p.p on it being awkward for guests. If you are set on it though, maybe do it at rehearsal instead? More intimate and leaves the big day out of it.

You may be an amazing vocalist. If so, turn it into a business and sing at other peoples' wedding. Please, don't sing at your own. You don't need the stress.

I have friends who are both musicians, and they both hate dancing. So they wrote a song together and sang it at their reception instead of doing a first dance. It was absolutely beautiful. It can be done well.

Went to a wedding where the MOH sang a song to the bride instead of doing a toast and it was super awkward to watch as a guest

I have secondhand embarrassment for you right now. I think that's tacky. I wouldn't.

My DH's cousin is a classically trained vocalist. She sang her vows to her husband in the form of a song she had written. It was very awkward as a guest to sit through, she was very clearly nervous, and it seemed like only her husband was into it.

I would skip it

My parents both sang to each other at their reception. They are both singers, met at karaoke, feel in love with each other's singing before they stated dating and most of their friends at he wedding knew them from karaoke. It was kinda expected they would and it was sweet. If its important to you and a family tradition, then go ahead

Most people aren't nearly as good as they think they are (and that isn't necessarily their fault. People are kind...).

Hi! I got married in Ireland last summer and I ended up using a song I had recorded a few years ago as I walked up the aisle. It was Cant help falling in love with you and it was great. I'm a singer and a vocal coach and when I work with brides or grooms I suggest lots of preparation time and a plan B and C if you get too nervous on the day. If you are less experienced as a singer then 6 months of lessons would be appropriate. Also consider rehearsing with your accompanist at least 4 times - this might not be possible with your full band but one of the musicians would be happy to do it. Invest in the prep and rehearsal and you will feel a lot less nervous!!!!