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Just Said Yes August 2022

Should i reconsider

Lewenski, on February 6, 2023 at 4:16 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 1 7

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My husband wants us to go to a Superbowl party which is not the problem. The problem is that the party is hosted by his ex-girlfriend's family. They came to our wedding reception (not the ex but her cousins) Now he wants to show the support back. They have moved the party to a public restaurant where there will be lots of people and they hinted his Ex-girlfriend may actually be there. He still would like for us to go but now I'm really not interested. Am I being immature? I don't want to rain on his parade because he really likes them. He says they always supported him and helped him when he was in his previous relationship. I know you can't control who comes to a public place however you can control being around them is you know they're going to be there. What's your opinion?

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Latest activity by Rabreena, on February 7, 2023 at 3:57 PM

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Michelle · on February 6, 2023 at 5:29 PM
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Is this the same ex he calls everyday and calls family?
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Lewenski · on February 6, 2023 at 5:29 PM
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No that’s his child’s mother . This is his most recent ex before I got with him
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Michelle · on February 6, 2023 at 7:55 PM
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I think it's okay to set boundaries when one partner does not know how.
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Jacks · on February 6, 2023 at 9:47 PM
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I would question his boundaries as they seem a bit loose. As long as he respects yours I guess.
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Brenda · on February 7, 2023 at 12:47 PM
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Judging from your post history, I really recommend couples therapy. There are a lot of insecurities and second guessing going on and forum advice will not solve
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Rosebud · on February 7, 2023 at 2:39 PM
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Are you comfortable with your husband remaining in touch with his ex's family? If you are then the probability of you running into her at an event is fairly high. If you aren't then you need to have a conversation with him about that. Honestly I think it would be more awkward for the x than you, seeing someone you used to love with his new love (let alone his wife) is not easy. If you decide to go just be kind and remember he has chosen you. Best of luck to you.
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Rabreena · on February 7, 2023 at 3:57 PM
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In my personal opinion that is not okay.
1) I don't understand why your husband's ex girlfriend's family would have wanted or needed to be at your reception, that's odd. Plus "show the same support back to them" by going to a Super Bowl party, support for what? Just plain NO. He was supportive to them when he was with his ex, but that's been over, as it is time for him to let go of them as they are a part of his past not his present time. You are his present time in the moment and that's what he should be thinking about. Not hanging out with them. Especially if his ex plans on being there, as there is no reason for any of them to "mingle" anymore,
2) Would he find and deem it okay if the roles were reversed on this?
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