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Should i let my cousin go to the wedding?

Kianni, on September 18, 2019 at 11:13 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 6

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Okay so im getting married in January 2020, and I sent out my invitations in June, 6 months in advance because most of my family is out of state. I also told everyone that I dont want kids at the wedding. I made my guest list over a year ago and had a set number of who i wanted there.
My cousin, lets call her Mandy, has a son and now a girlfriend, and lives in California. I invited Mandy and her dad (my uncle) as each others plus one. I told her she can bring her son to see the family, but we are getting a baby sitter to watch the kids.
She got upset that she couldnt bring both her new girlfriend and her son to the wedding, and told me she was mad that she felt like the family didnt accept her homosexual relationship. (Mind you, my mother is lesbian, and we have several long time Gay couples invited to the wedding).
Two months ago, she told me she wasnt going to come to my wedding. Today she messaged me saying shes still trying to come to the wedding and wants to know when is the last day to rsvp. I already gave her seat away.
What should I do?

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Latest activity by Fmv, on September 18, 2019 at 5:45 PM

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Veronica · on September 18, 2019 at 11:22 AM
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It sounds like you sent invitations way too soon. Did she send back a formal RSVP saying she couldn't attend or did she just tell you she couldn't? Also, now that she has changed her mind does she still want to bring the son and girlfriend to the wedding?
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Jessica · on September 18, 2019 at 11:35 AM
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Did you sent our save the dates? Invitations should not have gone out so early. That is why people send save the dates. Just because she had a meltdown doesn't mean you can assume shes not coming and give her seat away. I feel like her child does not count as a plus one. IMO she should be able to bring her son and her girlfriend.
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Mcskipper · on September 18, 2019 at 11:42 AM
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Make room for her. You shouldn’t have given away her seat. If it were me, I’d also make room for her significant other, but that’s a different issue.
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Cardioqueen · on September 18, 2019 at 1:09 PM
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Your wedding is still four months away — what do you mean that you gave away her seat? Do you already have a seating chart done and submitted to your caterer??
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Katie · on September 18, 2019 at 3:01 PM
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I feel like making this post means you have the option to allow her to come and since she was invited in the beginning why can't she still come now? You have 4 months still before your wedding so I'm sure you can make room for her at the reception.
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Fmv · on September 18, 2019 at 5:45 PM
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Im confused why you sent your invites 6 months before your wedding? And why you already have people rsvps back that you gave her seat away. I guess i need more info.
Also, if she has a girlfriend that you know about, she should have been invited by name. Would you go to a wedding where your spouse wasnt invited but you were?
If you really gave her seat away, just message her back saying the deadline has passed and unfortunately the head count cant be changed
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