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Should i invite this person?

Bride2Be, on July 28, 2021 at 3:20 PM Posted in Planning 0 17

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Ok so I need help on whether to invite the younger brother of a family I am inviting. The younger sister is one of my dear friends from high school and I’m definitely inviting her as well as her parents (they were like a 2nd family for me back in the day) and originally I was only planning on inviting them 3. Fast forward to now, her older brother and his wife moved into the apartment community I work for and we hung out a few times but they just informed me they will be moving out and getting a house (and having a baby yay!) and so honestly I don’t really see us hanging out much since they won’t be close location wise, but I felt like it would be good to invite them 2 also.

The issue is they have another younger brother who doesn’t live at home anymore and is away at college and since I’m planning on inviting his other family members to the wedding should I also invite him even tho I have no connection with him? Or is it ok not to invite him? Everyone else is on their own and not a part of the so called “family unit” like all living together anymore. I’m already slightly over on guest count and not sure what to do. Thanks for any insight!

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Latest activity by Bride2Be, on July 29, 2021 at 7:28 PM

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Allie · on July 28, 2021 at 3:24 PM
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Hmm I would probably go with no, since you don't seem to really know/have a relationship with him, but I'm curious to see what other people say!
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Hannah · on July 28, 2021 at 3:25 PM
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You don't have to invite them, as you don't have a connection with them. However, I get where you're coming from. I invited my childhood best friend's (who was also a bridesmaid) whole family, including her 2 adult brothers. One of them I'm also pretty friendly with but the other I honestly don't care for too much. I didn't want to exclude him though, so I invited him and his then-fiance.
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Jessi · on July 28, 2021 at 3:31 PM
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I would say you probably don't have to since this brother is an adult who lives at home, but it might be nice to. If you had extra room I'd say definitely just do it, but since you're already over your list that's a bit harder.
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Marianne · on July 28, 2021 at 3:37 PM
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I'd probably just keep it to your friend and her parents and not invite either of the brothers since you've only hung out with the one a few times and don't foresee the relationship continuing after he moves.
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Willow · on July 28, 2021 at 3:41 PM
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I'd invite the sister and her parents, no one else.

The younger brother doesn't warrant an invite since he does not live in the home and is an adult. But it is a little off to invite everyone but one in a nuclear unit.
Since you're already over your count, I would not invite the older brother and his wife since you're not that close, and they may want to bring a newborn. Even if you're having a child free affair, breastfeeding infants are considered an exception
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Jasmine S. · on July 28, 2021 at 4:21 PM
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I agree. It doesn't sound like she's close with either brother, so just invite the friend and mayyybe the parents.
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Cool · on July 28, 2021 at 4:35 PM
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I agree with inviting the sister and parents only.
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Sarah · on July 28, 2021 at 4:39 PM
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I also agree with inviting the sister and parents only. If you aren’t super close to the older brother and won’t be going forward, there’s really no reason to invite him and his wife.
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Melody · on July 28, 2021 at 4:53 PM
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If you're not close with him, I'd say you don't need to invite him. I'd probably say the same for the other brother and his wife as well. I invited the parents of one of my best friends (who was a bridesmaid), but not her brother. He's a cool dude, but I've never really been close with him. There were no hurt feelings, and it's totally okay to not invite people you aren't close to.
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Bride2Be · on July 28, 2021 at 5:15 PM
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Honestly seeing what everyone says is so helpful! I was kinda thinking I should cut the other brother and his wife from the list too but I felt obligated to invite them since they’re related and we hung out a few times!
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LeKisha · on July 28, 2021 at 5:21 PM
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Considering it's a sibling I would invite and remove someone who is not family. Just my thought - but I am extremely family oriented.
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LeKisha · on July 28, 2021 at 5:22 PM
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If he were a millionaire or celebrity and was your brother and still not close - would you invite him?
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Bride2Be · on July 28, 2021 at 5:26 PM
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That’s an interesting way to put it! I guess I would not. But now all these comments have me wondering who out of the family to actually invite? Just my friend from years ago, her and her parents, also her brother and wife? I’m just so confused by it all and what I should do! We really only keep in touch on Facebook and by keep in touch, I like see what they’re up to but don’t really reach out. It’s good enough for me and then (assuming) and the whole world with social media has me thinking I’m close with people when we just like each other’s pics and stuff. *sigh
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Cool · on July 28, 2021 at 5:52 PM
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I think you misunderstood her situation. It is not the brides brother. It’s a friends brother she’s referring to.
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LeKisha · on July 28, 2021 at 6:05 PM
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Thanks for clarifying!
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LeKisha · on July 28, 2021 at 6:11 PM
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I actually misread your comment Nonetheless, sometimes less is more. If you are at budget - you can not afford to invite everyone you socialize on FB. I thought he was your brother..lol My apologies!
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Bride2Be · on July 29, 2021 at 7:28 PM
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No worries! I guess I misread your comment cuz I just assumed you meant my friends brother so it’s all good haha I’ve decided against inviting the younger brother since I have no relation to him. Still on the fence if I want to invite her parents and her older brother and wife tho. I’m just at a crossroads since I really haven’t kept in touch with my friend after I graduated college in 2016. I mean we hung out a few times while I was still in college but we kinda just went our separate ways. I still follow her life on Facebook but that’s pretty much it. Now I’m starting to question if I should even invite her but I feel like I might as well.
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