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Should i invite them all??

Lizzy, on August 7, 2019 at 9:00 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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I am a young bride, so lots of my friends are still in high school. I want to invite one of my closer in high school friends and her mom, who I also know very well. My problem is, is that I don't really want to invite her whole family, because I don't really know her dad at all, and I am not having kids or younger teens at my wedding except for family, so I don't want to invite her brother. Her brother is a younger teen, but in my few encounters with him he is very unruly and I don't really want that. I feel bad only inviting 3 of them, I also considered only inviting my friend, but I don't want to give her a +1 because I really don't like her boyfriend, and my mom is also very against the idea of her boyfriend coming as well. Is it okay to just invite her and her mom? What should I do?

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Latest activity by Samantha, on August 8, 2019 at 8:22 AM

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Colleen · on August 7, 2019 at 9:31 PM
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You really should invite significant others. I guess I always put wedding questions to how would I fe. Like how would you feel if someone only invited you and not your fiancé?
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D · on August 7, 2019 at 9:43 PM
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Couples should be invited as couples. Since your wedding isn't until next spring maybe your friend will have a new boyfriend or no boyfriend by then.
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Grace · on August 7, 2019 at 10:21 PM
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Because your friend is in highschool, I think this is one of the exceptions to the etiquette rule of inviting couple's, they're very young (no offense) and they probably wouldn't even know that it's "considered rude". Invite her and her mom, it makes sense that you're having her and her guardian come together at your wedding. I wouldn't extend plus ones to minors/high schoolers and under, I'd invite their parent(s).
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Cher Horowitz · on August 7, 2019 at 10:44 PM
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I agree. Please wait a little longer before making any final decision! Even if they stay together, you need to invite both her and the boyfriend. If you really don't want him there, don't invite any of them
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Jeanie · on August 8, 2019 at 12:25 AM
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I would definitely invite the dad, as it would be rude to not invite a married couple as a whole. He may decline anyway and just send the mom without him. As for your friend, traditionally you don’t invite plus ones for unmarried people and teenagers, especially those still in high school. However, you say you are very young yourself, so you may have to bend that rule a little. You may want to consider your relationship with this friend and who else you are allowing to bring a date. Don’t exclude just her boyfriend, because you may end up losing a friend.
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Samantha · on August 8, 2019 at 8:22 AM
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You definitely should invite the dad. Generally, married couples get an invite even if you don't know both people. There's more wiggle room on SO's. I wouldn't say that you're obligated to invite your friends boyfriend. It would depend on how long they've been together and how likely it is you think they'll still be together come the wedding, but giving your friend a plus one would probably avoid drama.
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