Marissa
Dedicated July 2020

Should i invite the “new guy”?

Marissa, on November 18, 2019 at 10:24 PM Posted in Planning 0 7
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I’ve worked at my job a long time. I love all my coworkers (I only work with 7 other people). I already finalized my guest list and am inviting all of them.


One of the girls quit. She was replaced recently - and I’m talking 3 weeks recently. Her replacement seems nice enough, but I really don’t know her well. My issue is I have to send out save the dates soon. I don’t intend on inviting her because I don’t know her, but I have an issue with her maybe feeling bad.
At the end of the day, at least 2 people won’t be able to attend because they’ll have to work to keep our business open. As much as I like to think my wedding is a national holiday Smiley winking
One of my coworkers said she would feel odd receiving a save the date from someone she hardly knew, so that made me feel a bit better. She also said how would the new girl know if I’d already given them out by the time she started. I’m just a bit torn. It’s too expensive to invite strangers to my wedding.
Did anyone else run into this situation?

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  • Melle
    Champion June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I completely had this issue !!! So we got s new coworker right around the time my invites had to be sent out and I ended up inviting him anyway because I felt bad not inviting him vs inviting everyone else. In my head I kinda thought of it as well I've got the rest of these months to get to know him aha.
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  • K
    Beginner May 2020
    K ·
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    I don’t think I’d send her a save the date. Sounds like you have a little bit of time before the wedding day. I would wait until you are ready to send the invites and if you want to invite her then you can.
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  • Kelley
    Dedicated May 2020
    Kelley ·
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    I agree with pp, just wait and see if some people respond with a decline to the wedding. I also look at it this way, if you’ve hung out with the person outside of work they get an invite. Since that person is so new I wouldn’t sweat it. Too expensive of a day to be so nice to invite everyone lol. They should understand.
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  • W
    Devoted September 2020
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    Don't give her a save the date. You can always invite her later if you become closer. If she gets a save the date this early on, she may intepret it as gift grabby or a pity invite
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  • Amber
    Super September 2020
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    Absolutely not but I would definitely invite her to your bridal shower that's you all form an friendship.
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  • W
    Devoted September 2020
    Willow ·
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    Don't invite her to the bridal shower or any pre wedding events if she's not invited to the wedding. Bridal showers are specifically gift giving events for close friends and family that are attending the wedding. Only exception to this is a work bridal shower (that someone else organizes and throws for you)
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  • Liz
    Dedicated June 2020
    Liz ·
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    How far away is the wedding. Do you feel you may become closer to her as the time comes? You may be besties by then...
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