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Should i invite my toxic mom?

Private User, on February 10, 2020 at 6:02 PM

Posted in Family and Relationships 22

The past year I've been back and forth about inviting my mom to my wedding. Originally, I was going to have her help me make our bouquets and centerpieces because she's really artistic. But after a certain incident, I decided I didn't want her involved with any wedding planning or pre wedding...
The past year I've been back and forth about inviting my mom to my wedding. Originally, I was going to have her help me make our bouquets and centerpieces because she's really artistic. But after a certain incident, I decided I didn't want her involved with any wedding planning or pre wedding events. We haven't had a close relationship since I was a teenager. Any time she's around I'm uncomfortable and always on edge. She likes to start drama and the attention. She's notorious for not showing up after she says she will be there or is always late. She's also an alcoholic, plays the victim card, and doesn't seem present.(Her controlling boyfriend calls her every 30 min to check in on her so she always on the phone). I recently decided not to invite her to the wedding shower and I didn't take her wedding dress shopping. I just can't rely on her and feel like she doesn't deserve to be at my wedding. However, a side of me is telling myself that she's still my mom and it's 1 day. I just want some advice outside of my family and friend group. Should I invite her or no?

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  • G.
    Beginner June 2018
    G. ·
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    I think you'll regret not having her come. I know my son is doing the same. I have spent time, effort, and $$$ and now uninvited.


    I'm sending him gift and closing it out like I had planned, but he really has closed the door this time. I told him no pictures and I will be cutting all contact going forward.
    It's really painful and MEAN, after this person has raised you and made you who you are. This wedding is about more than 2 people getting married.
    Expect a reaction!
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  • Jasmine S.
    VIP May 2022
    Jasmine S. ·
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    Why are people giving advice about a wedding that likely happened years ago?
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