Should i invite my friends girlfriend who i can’t stand to the wedding

Yes, you should invite her. Nothing that you mentioned is personally harmful to you or your FH. Any experienced bartender will cut someone off before they become an issue.

I would invite her too and hope that things don't get out of line with her.

I agree with the PPs. You should invite her and any experienced bartender will cut her off before she becomes out of hand

I would invite her, it's not like you will have to spend a lot of time with her at your reception. Hopefully she'll behave herself and as pp mentioned any experienced bartender will cut her off.

If she is in a dating relationship with your FH's groomsmen then she should be invited. I had to invite a girl to our wedding, that I can't stand, due to her dating status with one of our wedding party members. In the end, I didn't even notice her.

You need not spend even 10 minutes in her company.

Yes, you should invite. Anyone who is in the relationship should be allowed to attend your wedding with their significant other especially if that person is in your wedding party. Bartenders know if they need to cut someone off so I wouldn't worry about the alcohol. Also, there will be so many other people there that you won't have to spend any one on one time with her.

What I’m doing with a similar situation is having my MOH and mother keep an eye on the person in question, and of course our bartender will know when to cut off. I think you should invite her as she is the partner of your friend (by his choice), and so you have to accept that, even if it’s tough. BUT I would highly recommend asking a bridesmaid or close friend to keep an eye on her, and let her know beforehand that if she gets out of control she will be asked to leave. I also recommend hiring an off-duty police officer if you’re having a large reception with an open bar. Some venues/ states actually require it. They basically just hang in the corner in normal wedding-guest clothes and keep an eye on guests such as the girlfriend in question, ready to step in if anything gets out of hand.

I think if you’re that close with him, and he still wants to be with her, there is no choice but to invite her. It’s sucks that you don’t get along, but you might damage your friendship with him if you were to not invite her. I totally understand how you feel- my fiancé has a friend whose significant other is just awful. She’s rude, petty and attention seeking. She is invited to our wedding and I plan to not give her the time of day that night. There will always be people in our lives we don’t like, but you love your friend, so it just is what it is.

View Quoted Comment I’m sorry, “Nothing that you mentioned is personally harmful to you or your FH” 😧 the heck! She just said that the girl put her hands on the guy. Umm yea that’s a problem!!! You have every right to say that her behavior is not acceptable. I don’t care about no wedding etiquette or whatever. If he wants her to come and she comes she needs to behave herself no if, ands, or butts about it.

I meannnnn it's your day. Do you really want a girl who you hate at your wedding? I understand that your fiancé doesn't want his best friend to not come as do you, but he clearly knows you don't like his girlfriend so would he really be surprised if you didn't invite her? If you do invite her and she acts crazy then have security escort her out. OR if she shows up and you didn't invite her then kick her out.

Thats a tough one. i have a few people coming that i dont like but i realized im not even gonna notice them because ill be so busy talking to people i care about. i think to be fair u can invite her and just ignore her presence

What do you mean by, "she put her hands on him"? Did she hit your fiance? Touch him in an innocuous but flirty way? Grab at him?


All etiquette aside, I draw the line at someone who engaged in physical violence or sexual harassment.

If you want your friend to come, you have to invite his girlfriend. It doesn't matter how terrible she is, it would be extraordinarily rude and hurtful to him not to invite her.

I think you have to include her but have your fiance to tell her boyfriend that she needs to take it easy with the drinking and be on her best behavior so she doesn't disrupt the big day.

I SAY THIS if its going to make you feel some way on your wedding date then no dont invite her its all about you ...