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Just Said Yes August 2021

Should i invite my fh brother?

Eleanor, on August 8, 2019 at 4:13 PM Posted in Planning 0 8

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Me and my FH are wondering wether to invite his brother to our wedding. He has always been in trouble in and out of prison, doing drugs and once he’s had a drink he’s trouble. I’m scared he shows up to the wedding full of drugs and starts a argument. My family are a very respectable family, and I’m worried he will ruin it for everyone especially myself and my FH. My dad is paying for the wedding and will cost a lot just for the venue alone.
My FH mum is saying we should invite him, but she’s not paying my family is. I really don’t know what to do, also, I work in a school and don’t want anything bad happening which could affect myself.

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Latest activity by Ashley, on August 9, 2019 at 5:02 PM

Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on August 8, 2019 at 4:17 PM
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This is your FH's decision to make. I would recommend hiring security and giving the bartender a heads up if you do choose to invite him.
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Cristy · on August 8, 2019 at 4:22 PM
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If the date on your profile is correct (August 2021), you still have a lot of time before you have to make this decision. A lot of things can happen in 2 years.
But I agree with Caytlyn, this should be your FHs decision. If he decides to invite his brother, I would also recommend security, to step in before things get out of hand.
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Master December 2019
Courtney · on August 8, 2019 at 4:22 PM
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This is FHs decision to make.
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Master May 2019
Cyndy · on August 8, 2019 at 4:29 PM
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I agree with the others. Your FH needs to make this decision. If he chooses to invite him he needs to set the rules with him in advance.
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Champion August 2017
Mrsbdg · on August 8, 2019 at 4:37 PM
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This is your FB decision to make not your family’s.
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Master December 2019
Cher Horowitz · on August 8, 2019 at 6:21 PM
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I would give it time. Your wedding is a little less than 2 years away. Lots can change in that time!
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Super February 2020
Jeanie · on August 8, 2019 at 6:46 PM
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I would wait to make that decision. A lot of things could happen by the time comes to send out invites. He could have a complete change of heart and get clean, or he could be back in prison. Don’t stress over it now because you’ll drive yourself crazy.
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Savvy November 2019
Ashley · on August 9, 2019 at 5:02 PM
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I can tell you coming from a very similar situation, except its MY brother I would not invite him to the wedding. I am not worried about my FH's family or my friend's seeing him. I worried about him causing a scene and/or starting trouble. I also agree with previous posts that this is something that your FH has to decide and come to on his own. My FH was not okay with my brother coming either, but when I did want him to come he didn't say anything about it he just said we should hire security... lol
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