Should i invite my female friend’s girlfriend to a wedding full of mostly conservatives who don’t agree with homosexuality?

I would invite them as a couple. I would, however, also be open with your friend. Explain that, while you live your families, they are not very accepting. Let her and her partner make the decision they are most comfortable with after knowing all the facts.

View Quoted Comment Exactly this.

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Yes, I agree with Hannah!

I can only speak from my own experience here (that friend with a female partner). I think it really comes down to how close she is to you and if she would feel uncomfortable around your family members. Would they actually say something to her or her girlfriend at your wedding? If they choose to say something to you directly, can you defend them both and your friendship? Don't even make it about actually inviting her but try to have a conversation about how conservative they are and see what she has to say. While my FW and I don't feel the need to hide the fact that we're a couple in public, we also try to not go to places we know would cause a problem or put us at risk. And that is the sad reality for her, she has to know she can feel safe. I'm not saying your family would physically do anything, but unwelcome comments and looks add a discomfort that make many of us feel like we can't be comfortable in our surroundings. If you're close I think the two of you can figure it out and keep the friendship intact.

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I agree with this. And inform your family in advance if they choose to attend that you won't tolerate hatred on your wedding day towards your friends especially.

At my son's wedding, my wife and I shared a table with the bride's parents. Her father was vehemently homophobic, and her mother was clueless. (The mother saw pictures of our wedding, and still didn't realize it was a gay wedding; she thought it must be a Jewish tradition for the bride to kiss the maid of honor.) Everyone (even the homophobic father) was on their best behavior. So the fact that your family is opposed doesn't mean that they would say anything in front of a same-sex couple.

I agree with the others. You can warn the couple that your family is like that. But don't leave them out just based on assumptions about what your family will do.

As for, "our families would never let us hear the end of it," that is basically what happens if you refuse to let your family's intolerance decide your course of action. Unless you are prepared to be as intolerant as they are, you'll have to learn to deal with it.

I think you should invite her and her partner. That being said if someone goes so far to say anything to you at your wedding go bridezilla on them and tell them to leave. If they say anything after tell them you are dissapointed they were focusing on a different couple than the ones getting married and you hope theyre happy ruining it for you. Don't tolerate 💩

I would invite them.

I would 100% invite them to the wedding as a couple. I wouldn't let bigots keep me from celebrating with my friends.

Maybe I am like your families in that way but you should invite your friends girlfriend to the wedding. I think it would be mean not to and your friend will know why you didn't and she wouldn't really be able to enjoy her self knowing her girl friend was excluded. Just let your family know she is your friend and they are both invited and if their reasons are based in scripture then they should make them feel welcomed and accepted regardless. I hope it all works out.

Definitely invite them. It is disheartening that this is even a question. Religion is never an excuse to treat anyone differently.

I personally would have her bring them and telly family not to be rude and judgemental, but that's just me lol

I'd invite them, tell the family a gay couple will be in attendance, and if they are not capable of acting like respectful adults about it they are welcome to stay home. Your friend's relationship choices are no one else's business.

View Quoted Comment Agree with this. If they choose to attend, I would have a chat with your homophobic families and let them know that their intolerance won’t be accepted at your wedding. “They won’t let us hear the end of it” isn’t acceptable. Don’t stand for it. Shut down the conversation.

If she's your friend and you want her there you should invite them as a couple. It's not about your families and what their beliefs are, but it's about you and your fiancee starting your lives together with the people who mean something to you.

I responded earlier, but I just keep thinking about this post. Would your families really embarrass you by commenting or making a guest of YOURS feel uncomfortable or humiliated? If so, that's awful. I'm sorry you have to deal with something like that.

Invite them. I'd give them a heads up about the unfriendly climate so they know. Make sure they understand you support them but don't want them to walk into a surprise just in case.

People gave Jesus crap about the company he kept too. Don't ever let them make you feel bad.

If you want her there, invite her. It is not up to your family or other guests to pass judgement on other people wherever they go. Lots of people disapprove of any single people not living a chaste ( sexless) life, and of any divorce, and of any remarriage after divorce, all officially against church teachings for Catholics and many Protestant denominations, as homosexuality is. Are you going to tell any unmarried couples not to come, if they have a sexual relationship? Will you not invite anyone divorced, or divorced and remarried? I do not think you should avoid all the people these folks consider sinful. They, like your family, are there to witness your wedding. Your family are not there to review the morals or sinfulness of other guests , according to their standards. I would hope your family would have better manners and not discuss or speculate on other people's lives, and not warn this couple or others. They know there are people who feel they can judge everyone, they live with that awful fact daily

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Where is the old "like" button? Exactly this. Their problem, not yours.

Lesbian bride-to-be here! I agree with previous comments. If my attendance could be potentially frowned upon, I’d still appreciate an invite, but I’d also appreciate an honest discussion about what I might expect from the more conservative guests. ❤️