Should i invite my ex boyfriend to my wedding?

Regardless if you’re really good friends now, ex’s don’t belong at weddings.

I would never invite an ex to a wedding. That could be beyond awkward especially if he wants to bring a date. I can't imagine what it would feel like attending an ex's wedding.

Things might be okay but I would be pissed of my fiancé invited his ex? That’s just a weird combo.

I, personally, would not invite an ex to my wedding

View Quoted Comment Chelsea, you're on to something there. 🤔

View Quoted Comment Veronica, he did recently start dating someone. She likes me but she has NO idea that I'm his ex (plus his first ever girlfriend). Oof! I'd imagine it would be beyond awkward if he were to come, bring her, and then she finds out she attended her BF's ex's wedding. Yikes.

If he’s one of you and FH’s close friends I

don’t see why inviting him would be an issue. If you’re all close friends I assume that means you hang out together and it’s not awkward 🤷🏼‍♀️
My ex of 5 years is my best friend in the world- not only will he be invited to my wedding, he will be standing next to me as my Man of Honor. My fiancé has formed a friendship with him as well and would think it odd if we didn’t invite him LOL I think it’s a great testament to you & your ex’s maturity that you can recognize you are great friends but not great romantic partners, and are able to navigate that like adults. Why would you throw away a great friendship just because you were unsuccessful at dating? It’s also a great testament to your fiancé that he’s mature enough to understand the situation, open minded enough to form a friendship with the ex, and confident enough to not feel threatened. I say if you and FH both want him there, invite him!

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First off, your ex should be honest with his girlfriend that he was once in a relationship with you. It is never a good idea to keep secrets. Second off, if he continues to keep it from her and they attend you wedding she could very easily find out from other those at your wedding which would make this so awkward and uncomfortable for her. I would leave him off the guest list.

I personally think that if your ex is someone who both you and your fiance genuinely want at your wedding, and there are no romantic emotions between you and your ex, why not invite him?? If there is any indication that inviting him would make things weird, then I wouldn't invite him.

I would say that the only exception to the never invite an ex to a wedding rule is if their good friends with your fiancé as well. I would definitely ask your fiancé first to make sure that they are okay with it, and not to just assume since they are friends. If they also want invite the ex then go for it. Since you only for such a short period of time and are good friends then the rule can have an exception.

I wouldn't invite my ex to me weddings and ex's don't mix

That’s a big fat no for me. I had 3 exes, all were over 2.5 years. None are invited to my wedding.

Each couple is different. I am not one to ever remain friends with an ex but that is just me. However, a former co worker not only dated briefly two friends that I worked with but ended up befriending their then boyfriends now husbands and was invited to both weddings. Was even one of the groomsmen at one. I mean that is up to you and if your fiance wants him there. I think ask your FH.

I would never invite an ex.

I'd never invite exs to your wedding. No matter how close you are it's just not a place for exs. And the fact that it took him a while to get over you as far as you know. Sounds like a bad idea. I just wouldn't ever.

View Quoted Comment I totally agree with you on that.

View Quoted Comment My fiance and I share the same group of friends as my ex, and we're around each other (masked) at least twice a week without any awkwardness. I would prefer that he tell his current girlfriend that I'm his first ex, just so she doesn't find out from someone else potentially while or after attending my wedding. Like I said, she and I get along, but she doesn't know. Our relationship wasn't remotely serious, like we never even kissed. So at least it's not a huge bomb to break open.

View Quoted Comment Chrysta, all I can say is WOW. Thank you! What you had to say was so very helpful. ♡

View Quoted Comment You bet girl! Not everyone is able to maintain friendships or handle breakups maturely. It’s awesome you guys have been successful at it! Don’t worry about other people’s opinions; their experiences are different than yours, and they don’t have to live your life. Do what works for you guys & makes you happy!! 💕

If he is now friendly with you and your FI, never any bad feelings, then invite him. If his current SO does not have a problem with it, they will come, and if that is an issue he will come alone or not at all. We both had exes that came to ours.