Should I Invite My Brother To My Wedding?

You love your brother, right? Then it shouldn't matter if you don't like his wife. I don't like my brother's wife, but they'll both be invited because I love him.

It sounds like their are some bigger issues here, but not inviting your brother to your wedding sounds like something you'd regret down the road.

I have two brothers and one sister. Two of my siblings will be at my wedding and one will not be. I understand he is your brother, but is allowing his wife to treat you this way and that is not okay. Your wedding day should be about you , and your happiness, not about just doing the right thing. Good luck!

Invite him but it sounds like the wife controls him when it comes to you. Sadly feel like he won't go anyways since the wife has a problem with you. I really hope he does show to your wedding and the wife of his needs to take a chill pill. Your his sister! Good luck and congratulations

Yes, you should invite your brother. And you should invite him to have a talk with his wife about what her issue is with you.

Thank You I just really feel hurt that my brother didn't want to participate in my wedding and i don't know what to say when my fiancé ask if my brother will be involved or will my lil nephew be the ring bearer.

I have tried talking to her and she doesn't want to discuss anything with me so i don't know whats the back story and everyone else sees the way she ignores and humiliates me at first i thought i was blowing things out of porpotion but my brother and family see's it.

I'm sorry that you're hurting. Of course you want your family to be involved. I'm not sure what the solution is, but I think that not inviting him could do more damage.

Have you spoken with him about your feelings?

What elphaba said. This is incredibly worrisome. My fh isn't a huge fan of my one sister, but when we're all together you wouldn't be able to tell. It's called being an adult. And if he were ever rude in any way I would end him. The fact that your brother can't do things with you without (seemingly) fearing her, is something that may need to be brought up in a private setting. Wondering what else goes on at home there.

I'm sorry that you're going through this. I would still invite him. He's still your brother. Even if she ends up not letting him go, at least you tried.

Don't feel bad at all - my FH's brother turned us down when we asked for one of the nieces to be in the wedding. Yes definitely still extend an invitation and even if he declines (which i hope he doesnt) at least you know you tried

Family is family. You don't always like your family. Blood doesn't always get along with blood. But if you love your brother and want him to be there on your big day, then invite them. You can't exclude her when doing so, and if he doesn't accept the invitation, that's on him. He's more likely to regret it. But if you don't invite, then you will be the one with regret. No one wants that.

I would invite them. Just because you invite the couple, it doesn't mean both will actually attend.

I read your post three times. You didn't bother to add punctuation that would render your post coherent.

Sorry, before I hit "Post Comment" I tried again. If you are asking community members to get involved with a brother you love and a SIL who doesn't like you, please, do us the courtesy of spending a few minutes to proofread and add punctuation. If you can do that, we'll dive in and give you our best advice.

Right Elphaba?! Sounds very controlling or bro needs to speak up! That's just wrong. I would invite them so it's not on your conscience. The truth always seems to come out in the end!

Do the right thing and invite them anyway. None of this sounds like your brother not wanting to be involved, it sounds like he's just trying to make two women he loves happy without rocking the boat any more than he has to. Maybe it's an abusive relationship, maybe it's not, but it certainly doesn't sound like a healthy one. Continue to be the sister he needs and wants in his life, and when he finally walks away from her, you'll still have the brother you love.

INVITE THEM: it sounds like she is very manipulative and is expecting no invitation because of what she did.

Do NOT allow someone like that to bring down your day or create regret in the future. She probably wants you to spend all this time wondering about this.

Brush it off, invite them. As long as you've put in effort-that's all you can do. Your part is done.

If she shows up or not- have the time of your life and don't acknowledge her. Dance and laugh while she sits there being a bitter mess even if your brother won't participate in wedding events- he will know you are there for him even if it's not for her.

Sometimes you just have to be the bigger person. Know at the end of the day you have done everything for this women to except you and she is deciding not to. Some people just need a wake up call. Maybe you need to be blunt with her and ask her why she treats you so badly. There is nothing wrong with wondering why you are treated so poorly. But don't be upset if it blows up in your face either. At the end of the day some people will just not like you in life.

I have a similar issue. I invited his whole family out of respect for him. If she doesn't show then ok. Give them a RSVP deadline and if they don't respond find someone else to enjoy your day with and let them be. I don't want all that negativity surrounding me.