Hi All,
I'm looking for your opinions/advice on the below subject.
My partner and I are considering getting married abroad with a few close friends and family members, and then having a large party/celebration when we get home. All in, there would be 10/12 guests we'd like to attend abroad. We are in a fortunate position where my father would be willing to pay a decent contribution to each guest to enable them to join us abroad (our view is also that people could seize this opportunity to travel or take a vacation).
My partner would love to have his brother attend, as would I, but the issue I am having is that I am not very fond of my fiancés brother's girlfriend. Unfortunately I have never gotten on with her, for context the first time I ever met her she mocked my accent and made comments about my facial features that rather upset me, something she's never apologized for, but something I still remember many years later. She also never seems to do much for him (my partners brother), he is always bending over backwards to make sure she's happy (she constantly goes on about all the nice things he does for her, but he nor she ever speak about anything nice she has done for him). She has also taken my fiancé's brother away from their family, prioritizing their lives and her own family (my fiancé's family are some of the most loving and hard working people I've ever met, they do an awful lot for us and we do an awful lot for them, I'll be very blessed to have them as my inlaws). As a result of prioritizing their lives and her family they've missed the likes of big birthdays, important outings, and in general just not supporting his family when they need it. She, like I have both had very fortunate upbringings, but where as I had to work hard/earn/prove I was deserving of nice things, she has been handed everything on a silver platter, which sometimes makes her sound quite spoilt/bratty (awful of me to say). My partner and his parents are ok with her, but not the biggest fan, but unfortunately she'll be sticking about as they've just bought a house together.
Personally I do not want her at the wedding abroad, but I understand she at some point will be part of the family - Am I being a bit pathetic about it all and need to get over it?
If we did decide we didn't want her at the wedding abroad, how would we approach that subject? Or if I did cave in and say she can come, should my father have to pay for her travel and accommodation despite me not wanting her there?
