Should i have my future sister in law as a bridesmaid

You should only have those that you are exactly close to. Since you aren't close to her then no she shouldn't be in the wedding. If your fiance close to her then maybe she can be a groomswoman. We had a bride's man and groomswoman in ours.

I think you should do what makes you happy! My fsil’s aren’t bridesmaids in my wedding. 🤷‍♀️ I think it definitely depends on how close you are with her. Also, since she is really controlling she may try to control your bridal party plans.

It is not a rule that sister in laws have to be in the bridal party. I do not think you should add someone just because you do not want to avoid drama because as you describe her she is going to cause problems as a bridesmaid. Sorry she is being dramatic but she needs to not assume she is in the bridal party. She wants to be in the wedding she can be with her brother's wedding party.

I figure, if you have to ask, the natural answer is No. You’ll probably have drama either way… whether you have her in as a bridesmaid or not. Therefore I would choose against having her as a bridesmaid to avoid the stress that Show potentially cause being an internal part of your wedding.


So instead assign her a roll, maybe as a reader or to pass out programs

Oop! **she’ll

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the advice, I know I should just go with who I'm close with. It's funny that you bring up bride's men because that's kinda I had considering most of my closest friends are guys lol

View Quoted Comment I totally agree, thanks!

View Quoted Comment My brother-in-law's wife had 3 guys and 3 girls on her side because that's who her closest friends are. I had my brother on my side and it was a lot of fun and I was glad I could include him. He wouldn't have been in the wedding otherwise.

Girl, its your day and she isnt guaranteed a role. in fact, it doesnt even sound like shes earned a role. its your day so id keep only those who are closest around. as an excuse, you could say you guys want your bestfriends only in your party to keep it intimate and if she doesnt like it, who cares? not her day, not her say. do what makes you happy and dont make an impulsive decision simply to avoid drama because you might regret including her. its pretty likely that she'll cause issues even if you do choose to include her so i would not take that risk. im definitely not having my sister in law in my party because im not cool with her like that. give her a different role like cake cutting (if you didnt hire someone), passing out programs or favors, etc. there are many ways to involve her without having to be forced into direct contact with her, which should be avoided the day of in order to outrule drama. good luck!!!

If you have to ask, then you shouldn't have to have her as a bridesmaid. This is your day. It's rude of her to assume she will be your bridesmaid.

Nope nope nope! My fsil have a hot/cold relationship as well. We just rub each other the wrong way without meaning to- it usually gets fixed within a week but I’m not dealing with all of that. She’s going to be a grooms woman. However she is invited to my bridal shower and her and FMIL have been invited to come with me and my ladies for HMU day of (I’m having them go first 1. So they can be with Fh when he’s getting ready and 2. So I can still have alone time with my ladies). She isn’t invited to my bachelorette but she is going to the bachelor party. She’s still part of the wedding, just not through me

Mine wants his daughter to be mine because I'm using my kids as bridesmaids and groomsmen . I agreed because he wouldn't hush about it and he says its not fair to use our kids and not his daughter. The thing is I dont know her! He raises my kids as his own , they live with us they ate teens so they are with us everyday and our biggest supporters. But her she never comes around . At first I told him no but then was alien hell if not worth arguing over something so small as who's going to stand up there . If it makes him happy then I am happy.

Ugh my phone changed alot of my words lol

My fiance has 2 brothers and a sister. I offered him a spot on my bridesmaid team for her, suggested a grooms person spot on his side for her. He decided she'd be best at usher.

I’m not having my two sisters is laws( one on my side one on his) in the wedding party. They will be invited to all the events like the shower rehearsal dinner and bachelorette weekend. I will also have them come over to the venue to get ready with all of us so they don’t get left out but also to make sure they will look good in all those family photos. Including them in some way but not making them a bridesmaid totally fine!

I wouldn't. I feel like you should have people actually close to you.

I wouldn't include her unless you are happy with the friendship. I included my husband's 4 sisters, but I have good relationships with all of them.

To avoid all the drama, do not have her.